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PostPosted: Thu Jun 26, 2014 5:03 pm 
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I know I didnt post on here for quite some time. But only because good things happened.
At the age of 22 I got my first girlfriend. If you followed some of my posts you know that I always wanted this girl, and after almost 2 years of "just being friends" we got closer and closer the past weeks and decided to be exclusive now. However...we didnt have sex yet. Last time it almost happened but I got a bit afraid and left it by just making out and touching. Tomorrow I will be at her place again and its quite obvious what is supposed to happen! I mean she is my girlfriend now! The thing is this is going to be my first time ever and im exited as fuck. It just my personal opinion but I wanted to save this for someone I really love and thats exactly what she is! I totally love her. She doesnt know that im a virgin of course!!! And im so afraid that I will only last for a minute or that my penis is "to small" or what not. All those crazy thoughts.
Can you give me some advice or tips?

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 26, 2014 5:23 pm 
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Not sure if I'm reading this right. You've been just friends for the past 2 years and now you're in a exclusive relationship? Am I getting it right?

Anyway... saving yourself for someone you love, to me, seems like a lie you tell yourself to feel better for not ever having sex yet. If I'm right, you may as well admit it. Not to me, or to the forum, but to yourself. It's not really that big of a deal anyway. If I'm wrong, well, more power to you.

Best advice I can give you is to not think about it 10 times / hour for the next 24 hours. You know what happens when you over-think stuff. Groom yourself, make yourself desirable and stop worrying about silly shit like "is my dick big enough". You got this. Take control.

As far as actual sex goes...well, you only get good at having sex by having sex. Sure you can read up some guidelines on how to please a woman, but please keep in mind they are just that - guidelines. Use those as you see fit but don't be stuck up in your own head. Don't do what 80% of guys do and immediately jump on her ass / tits and remain there for the entire duration of the act itself. Take your time, women like men who pay attention to their entire body, not men who forget themselves in one specific area.

Most importantly, pay close attention to her body language and reactions. Those will tell you more about what / how she likes than a million guides or videos will.

If there's anything else, please say so. I want to help you out in any way I can :D.

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 26, 2014 5:31 pm 
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Remember, it's YOUR body. You set your own pace and only move forward when you are comfortable. The only way it won't be great is if you are unsure or nervous... so don't be. Kiss a bit longer and talk more. Just tell her if you are a little scared, and if she likes you her impulse will be to help calm you and make you feel better. Let her.


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PostPosted: Thu Jun 26, 2014 6:53 pm 
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I truly had no idea this level of awkwardness existed. Not until I started reading this forum. I mean no offense. Honest. But not only did I not know it existed - I would have never have thought to have found it on here....


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PostPosted: Thu Jun 26, 2014 6:58 pm 
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I truly had no idea this level of awkwardness existed. Not until I started reading this forum. I mean no offense. Honest. But not only did I not know it existed - I would have never have thought to have found it on here....
I used to be "normal". Then stuff happened.

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 26, 2014 10:05 pm 
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A good tip I learned from TD was to not look at sex as a big deal and more like a way to cement a moment in time and release steam. Sex should be fun. Build up to it and enjoy the journey. It is normal to be anxious and nervous, a lot of guys are on their first time.

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PostPosted: Fri Jun 27, 2014 12:19 am 
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Just make sure you please her. You do that, and she will take care of you.

Use your tongue, fingers, knees, head, whatever you gotta do to make that girl cum.

If you don't know how to eat pussy, start by spelling out the alphabet with your tongue on her clit.

Eat her out until you start to feel her legs shake... Then fuck her. It won't matter how long you last...


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PostPosted: Wed Jul 02, 2014 5:16 am 
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Quick update here...
So I been at her place yesterday and it did not happen again...She was trying so hard this time and up to a certain point it was alright. But when she set on top of me making out like crazy she obviously expected me to undress her or at least myself but I didnt. I was to scared. Because It was really really late already and she has her big big final exam today, I kindly asked her if its okay to do it next time. She was totally fine with that and not mad AT ALL.
Well I know she is a caring and loving woman and understanding. And Im sure up to a certain point, holding back can create some attraction but Im concerned that if I hesitate longer and longer she might think Im gay or some LOL.
But seriously I think my biggest problem is that I think or actually know that I probably cant give her what she is used to (even though she had no boyfriend in 3 years and im 99,99% sure no sex either) and that she will be disappointed.
I played my cards so well up to this point but now im where I always wanted to be and it seems so difficult now...


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PostPosted: Wed Jul 02, 2014 6:36 am 
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Quick update here...
So I been at her place yesterday and it did not happen again...She was trying so hard this time and up to a certain point it was alright. But when she set on top of me making out like crazy she obviously expected me to undress her or at least myself but I didnt. I was to scared. Because It was really really late already and she has her big big final exam today, I kindly asked her if its okay to do it next time. She was totally fine with that and not mad AT ALL.
Well I know she is a caring and loving woman and understanding. And Im sure up to a certain point, holding back can create some attraction but Im concerned that if I hesitate longer and longer she might think Im gay or some LOL.
But seriously I think my biggest problem is that I think or actually know that I probably cant give her what she is used to (even though she had no boyfriend in 3 years and im 99,99% sure no sex either) and that she will be disappointed.
I played my cards so well up to this point but now im where I always wanted to be and it seems so difficult now...
You're killin me man lol

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PostPosted: Wed Jul 02, 2014 6:42 am 
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Dude you get a boner and put it between her legs.

Otherwise you get to jack off while you cry.


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PostPosted: Wed Jul 02, 2014 9:31 am 
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Do it or I'll send Majikal over and he'll do it for you.


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PostPosted: Wed Jul 02, 2014 9:58 am 
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Do it or I'll send Majikal over and he'll do it for you.

You down for a tag team?


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Bro, I think you are really too uptight on this. Sex is common and just let it be. Relax yourself first with her company and escalate all the way.

The less you think, the better it gets, so just chill, relax and let it happen.

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PostPosted: Wed Jul 02, 2014 6:06 pm 
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Quick update here...
So I been at her place yesterday and it did not happen again...She was trying so hard this time and up to a certain point it was alright. But when she set on top of me making out like crazy she obviously expected me to undress her or at least myself but I didnt. I was to scared. Because It was really really late already and she has her big big final exam today, I kindly asked her if its okay to do it next time. She was totally fine with that and not mad AT ALL.
Well I know she is a caring and loving woman and understanding. And Im sure up to a certain point, holding back can create some attraction but Im concerned that if I hesitate longer and longer she might think Im gay or some LOL.
But seriously I think my biggest problem is that I think or actually know that I probably cant give her what she is used to (even though she had no boyfriend in 3 years and im 99,99% sure no sex either) and that she will be disappointed.
I played my cards so well up to this point but now im where I always wanted to be and it seems so difficult now...

Your "fight/flight" response is out of whack. I have this far far worse than you my friend, so no judging. The feeling you get and run away from is the exact one that gets these other guys hard and horny. Due to negative experience in my case, and no experience in yours, our impulse is to avoid rather than pursue that feeling.

RE-FRAME! Think of that feeling that causes you to run. How does your stomach feel? Are you hot or cold? What do you think about? I used to think of that as "fear" or "anxiety". Now I try to label it as "arousal", "excitement". Something to go toward and seek. Thrill seekers and adrenalin junkies are my inspiration.

Now pull out your cock, and put it in her mouth.


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Majikal- What an awesome and incredibly appropriate picture ahhahaha

I cannot relate with this in the slightest bud. When it is go time, the animal just goes off and does his thing. You hit some points when you need to stop tweakin' in your own head and just let whatever it is takeover. You won't be sorry bud.

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