Hey,

so I've been in a relationship with this girl for two to three months now...
She suddenly doesn't respond to my messages any more.

Question is: how should I react to that?

I've so far dropped her two notes, haven't heard from her in five days.

Now, I don't want to become overly dramatic, but at what point would it be ok to ask her what the hell is going on and tell her that I think that I deserve some clarification...?

Cheers,
me.

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Hey dude don't text her anymore you don't wan to smother her. I'm not sure what your texting has been like up until this point were you needy at all that she could have found someone better or could it be something as simple as her phone is broken? I've been in a situation before where the girl thought I wasn't talking to her anymore it was simply my phone not working and I didn't have her on fb or anything so she had to wait until I got it fixed.

Your next move should definitely be a call. Don't be abraisive by reacting out of anger you show immaturity you should put the impression across I've been so busy I didn't even realize we haven't spoken in 5 days.

"Suddenly stopped responding" is very rarely all that sudden. Is there something stupid you did / think you may have done?

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You're in a relationship and you haven't so much as texted for nearly a week?

Is she possibly laying in a ditch somewhere? I'd try calling... if you don't get an answer, backburner her, cause I don't think you're in a relationship anymore.

^^ almost always in the guys eyes it seems sudden when in the girls eyes its been building up for a while then she just stops responding. Quite a while ago there was a thread on here a guy was tore up real bad because the girl "suddenly" stopped responding. As I read through the thread I was thought to myself this is not sudden you've been needy and insecure for a long time and she found someone better, but to him everything was going great and she out of no where stopped responding.

Think back read over your texts is there anything stupid I did? Did I appear needy and insecure? If the answer is yes you've most likely found the source of your problem.

I'm just gonna throw this out there as a bit of a rant. To simply stop replying is a BITCH move and I can't respect anyone that breaks up with someone like that!! I'm gonna tell you right now if that's the case with this girl font even try and get her back you deserve better hold yourself to a higher standard. I had a girl one time stop answering her phone because I offered to bring her soup when she was sick she took that as me being needy and desperate. It stung a bit, but looking back I'm beyond happy that I didn't chase her I've got multiple girls on the go now and a buddy of mine showed me her pof profile all I could do is laugh because she talks about this great guy she met with similar interests (me) so in the end it was her loss not mine she's on pof thinking about what she could have had with me and I'm having the time of my life and have multiple girls on the go.

I know the above paragraph is a wee bit off topic I just posted that story as a bit of motivation for you to understand your own worth and put the right value on what you bring to the relationship.

Is this some long distance relationship? Or some internet relationship? Just don't message her anymore.. What is that suppose to accomplish? Did she not see your messages prior? What makes the third different from the second, or first.

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Thanks for your responses.

Yeah, she's currently on vacation (I couldn't go).

I know that that might not be helpful, but doesn't she at least owe me a "Sorry, you and me - doesn't work out"? I mean, just breaking off contact is kinda strange, what if something happened or she lost the phone?


I mean - SERIOUSLY - you're together with someone and suddenly don't hear ANYTHING AT ALL from that person any more - wouldn't you also at least want them to tell you what's going on? I mean, why would that come across as needy?!


I'm planning to send her a message telling her "Look, if you don't think we're working out, please tell me, so I don't need to be worried that something has happened".

What do you think?

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Thinking that she owes you something is just gonna hold your progress as a player and in the game back. Sure in an ideal world ppl wouldn't just stop replying, but this is the digital/self centered age we live in my friend, and it happens. It happened once to me I vowed to improve my game so it wouldn't happen again and I did just that. Don't pay her any attention don't msg her NOTHING!!!! As Eddie said she didn't reply to your last 2 msgs why would she reply to. 3rd? Just put her out of your head and she may start to wonder oh where is he what's he doing who's he doing it with maybe he met someone else. At that point she'll msg you if she does I strongly suggest you don't jump and reply to the 1st one let her sweat a bit and put some hard thought into this and think after what she did is this someone I want in my life? I personally hope the answer is no and you realize you deserve better and take the high road. Read my post above that's what I did and I'm beyond happy that I did!

That "Look, if you don't think we're working out" message is horrible and needy and presumptive... And you're probably going to send it anyway...

She's on vacation. Just go cold...

Don't do it. I know it's difficult, and the behaviour is rude and passive aggressive, but shift your focus to you. Do the things you like, keep yourself occupied.

In the scenario that she'd already decided to break-up with you, and use the vacation as a catalyst to gain some distance, she'll receive the text as you being needy, thereby confirming even more that she'd made the right decision in ending things.

In the scenario that she's been legitimately busy on her vacation (though it only takes a few minutes to check-in with someone, and with all the social media today I don't see how she couldn't - unless it's somewhere in the wilderness without any wifi access), again your text will be construed as needy, and again you've lost value in her eyes (and yours, MORE importantly - these self-defeating microbehaviors will lower your self-esteem and lead to more so-called 'beta' behavior).

In the scenario where she's ambivalent about the future of the relationship, again, this type of text may be the final straw that broke the camel's back.

So you see any which way you look at it, you stand to lose by sending that text.


WHAT you CAN do, instead rather, is to send her a text of concern "Hey babe, got a bit concerned about your safety, everything ok?" type of thing.

Regardless of what the outcome, how you conduct yourself will play a huge impact on how you feel about yourself. So if you start engaging in all these needy behaviors and the breakup is inevitable anyway, finding your footing again post-relatoinship will be a bit more of a challenge.

It's kind of odd... If she's with friends or family she could use someone elses phone to say hey "there's a problem with my phone." I'd say she's either in hospital or she's with someone else.

For now i'd just go out and enjoy yourself with some friends, not message her and consider you on a "break." When she's back press for communication and clear up what's going on.

It could, although it's very unlikely, be that she's wound up in a coma... Heh. Or there's absolutely no coverage or internet where she is so she can't get in touch. The only other thing that comes to mind is she's dumped you without having actually dumped you which is quite immature, not even a message like.

i read your what do you think of this message and gotta say I too saw that you were already gonna send it half the time I see that on here, i just assume you already have sent it. it always fails. It's an assumption that you going on based off of fear. fear wins everytime. donot send that. women are highly experienced at making themselves seem like saints. if she says nothing then when you over react she can say your overreacting. stop messaging her till she responds. as a matter of fact when she does respond finally dont answer her right away. treat her as she would treat you

Your advice is always great. You really know your stuff, I just wanted to give props where they are due.


Anyways,

She decided to go on Vacation a couple months into a relationship and went cold and distant, assume she is looking for other guys and act accordingly. The accordingly is to go cold, hit on other girls, and treat her like a new girl you are gaming, not your GF, because with her leaving and going cold she does not look at you as a BF. Vacations are an excuse for girls to act how ever they want, this is a vacation for you as well. If she hits you back up later do not ask what she did, and if she asks your best reply is to say you only did what she did and change the subject. She will know you were not string along.

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n2thevoid laid it out perfectly to be honest. There really isn't anything else that you need to take into consideration besides his post.


Except maybe this:

Go occupy yourself with something. Gym, out with friends, hit on girls. Whatever you want. Because it seems like you're spending a little bit more time thinking about this than you should. Which leads to you almost sending those disgusting needy texts. Not good.

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