Hey guys made a new account,

Anyway I am in all confusion right now and I need the best advice I can get so here is a summary of the story!

The girl: She's your normal rich stuck up girl that everyone chases but she has class all about it and confidence. (The only time her confidence broke was when she developed feelings for me) Age :19

I meet this girl and from the moment I met her I went after her I knew I wanted her and I chased. It took me 5 months to finally get her I played the game pretended I wasn't interested what not but she fell for me and she turned out to be a good girl. So we dated for over 6 months had our ups and downs but were still mad about each other. We start to fight and argue about small things kind of let the bullshit get in the way keep in mind we are both stubborn. Her friends get in her ear particularly one which I think has a reason for the ending.

NOW after a small break she txts me telling me she misses me, she feels better she's talking to me etc however since that break everything changed it wasn't the same any more. Her main concern was that I never officially asked her out and I said that's childish everyone knows we are dating you don't have to ask someone out to be in a relationship that's school rubbish.

So I had a small argument with her (regarding me taking her out one night to get a room spending the night together, she loved the idea however realised she made plans to go to her friends tindr gatho before hand "think she was trying to make me jealous")

After the argument we didn't speak for 2 days until she txts me saying when are you free I need to speak to you. So I call her the next day and she tells me "I don't think I'm ever going to be a good enough girlfriend for you" "I don't want to lead you on" or "we haven't gone out in 6 months obviously we both aren't ready for a relationship" . I go over her house she is full confident in breaking up and I agree due to the fact she has been treating me like shit lately. This is not normal she normally cry's over nothing I don't know where she got the confidence from.

Now she was wierded out by me not carrying about us breaking up or showing no emotion and i'm fairly certain she is playing games this girl loves to play games and loves it when I chase her. I have strong feelings for this girl she's the one everyone wants and I knew from that start I was going to get her but I wont roll over like a bitch or be treated like one. I'm confused maybe she actually wanted to break up by im leaning to the side she was trying to catch my bluff. Even if she doesn't want to be with me do I tell her how I feel?

She's going overseas next week for 2 weeks!

What do I do? Do I let this girl walk out and worry about her not coming back? I want her to come back and I want to be with her and I know she still likes me I think if we both still like each other this shouldn't end like it has.

HOW DO I MAKE THIS GIRL NOT BE THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY???

Should I give her time to think and finally kick in that we are broken up hoping that she texts me or fully ignore her thinking she will come back. Or do I message her and tell her I'm not ready to let her go?

I THINK I am waiting for her to txt me telling me she misses me then I know I've won and I'll make her mine again. BUT I don't know or think SHE is going to do that.

She told me the night we broke up she still likes me and its going to be so hard for her not to text me everyday. We broke up 4 days ago. Help me guys!

I think she has created an SPAM of "her way or the highway" and when you went no contact/break on her she decided she wanted to keep calling the shots, not you...

You may have called her bluff with the breakup line, when she suggested it. She probably thought you'd never agree to it so easily.

2 stubborn people fighting = no one backing down and nobody wanting to save face and just say "whoops".

If you give in, you may save the relationship, but she's going to get her way and be in a power position. Depends what's important to you, man.

Cheers man, I'm going try rely on time I mean give it a couple weeks to when she gets back from overseas. I may have moved on enough to not worry any more but if I haven't my best bet is to tell her I'm going to see her or take her out to dinner ??

I got to take her out of her comfort zone and some how get her away from her interfering friend. I'm down to working on the mental game her seeing me out enjoying myself or knowing I'm seeing other girls will hopefully break her down.

Be firm about your intent for the Relationship. Do not chase, it may get her back temporarily but shortly after that little dopamine rush you'll look like every other guy to her and she ll likely discard you for the next rush that comes along.

By maturely and respectfully declaring your intent and keeping to it (boundaries) she will have little choice but to abide by that frame or move on, in which case you lost nothing anyway as it was an inevitability she'd walk.


Really, do you want a girl you have to chase everytime she's feeling insecure about things? That's too much work in my book so best to deal w it now than later.