A quick background story:
We been dating for 1 year and 2 months and we had our ups and downs but overall its a great relationship. I loved her a lot and i know she also loved me as well. The sex was always great and always kept her attracted. I recently just turned 22 and she is 21. I have remained alpha for almost the whole time except when I had some deep family issues and I just broke down and she was there for me. Overall, shes a great girl and we have so much in common.

The problem:
A month ago, some random girl added me on facebook and started massively flirting with me. The way she was coming at me seemed totally fake and me and my friend were hanging out when she contacted me on fb, so we realized it was some faker or hacker and we decided to just prank her and see how it goes. The girl was saying she was so horny and needed the D and blah blah and my friend decided to play along with it. She was asking for nudes and we sent her a nasty penis picture from google to show that we were not being serious and then we just stopped talking to her. 2 days later, we found out it was actually a gay dude trying to get pictures from me cuz the same gay dude added me on facebook and did the same thing but in another account.

Fast foward to 3 days ago:
She slept over at my place watched a movie and we had sex at night before sleeping and again in the morning. Then I go shower and left my phone in my room. For some reason she went thru my phone, and found that conversation. Without hesitation, she broke it off. I understand why and I dont blame her. (I would think the same if I found something similar on her facebook). I know I fucked up by letting the whole conversation go for too long and too sexual on MY facebook.

So later on that day, I tried calling her and she didnt pick up. So I waited until the next day and went to see her at her house in person. I explained to her what happened and even showed her proof that it was just a prank and that it was never my intentions to hurt her and it never even crossed my mind to ever cheat on her. She stayed cold towards me and saying she cant trust me anymore and that's why we cant be together anymore. I broke my frame and I was basically telling her it was just a prank but it came off as if I was begging her for forgiveness.

Now my question is:
I know it was a bit of long read but it was all necessary info. Is there anything I can do to save the relationship? She's a confident girl and I know for sure that if I go no contact then she will just forget about me thinking I cheated on her. Help?

Not much you can do but maybe someone can give some advice. You've shown the proof. If she is that untrusting (word?)of you after a year then that's shitty. She may come back if she has any sense, unless there have been trust issues in the past and this is the last straw.

If she's not taking your calls, write her a text or an email.

Explain it briefly and concisely. Not like what you've written here.

All you can do is tell her what happened, say it was a gag and you'd never cheat on her. In the future be weary of random hot girls on Facebook... why even add them, seriously? They're dudes, or they're your own chick masquerading as a dude to catch you fucking around.

She also shouldn't have been going through your phone...

Thanx for your reply. There hasnt been any trust issues in the past. We had a couple arguments in the past just like any couple would. She told me "i never checked ur phone before but something told me to just check ur phone and thats what I found"
There was never any trust issues or insecurites between us.
and yes lesson learned. I will never do that again. But is there any else I can do? Should I go no contact and hopefully she will come to me? Or should I keep insisting that it was just a joke and I never cheated on her? I dont know what to do. Never been in a situation like this before.

You know her best, dude...

Personally, I wouldn't go no contact if you want to stay with her...

From what you've written, she sounds like she made up her mind and she's done with you. Going NC wouldn't matter to her, in that case.

As I said - my opinion, based on what you've written, would be to suck it up and detail what happened for her in a really honest way... and apologize. (I obviously haven't seen what she's seen... like, were you flirting heavily with this other girl/guy on FB? Cause that may be tough or impossible to defend... depending what was there).

Tell her this whole thing is stupid. Tell her you're sorry. Tell her you love her.

And if she comes back, she comes back... If not, lesson learned. Stay the fuck away from randoms on Facebook... or at least delete the damn messages if you're going to be an idiot

You;'re in a tough situation. I don't know your girl. You can go the sincere apology/explanation route and it could make her come back. Or it can come off as needy and push her away. Then you could go NC, and she could forget about you. Or she could take some time and think of how silly she's being and that she trusts you.

The messages were pretty flirty in order to get her reacting and not falling for w.e scam she/he planned. Me and my friend were just playing along cuz we knew that it was a scammer. But problem was that it came in my fb so it shows my name.

thanx for all ur replies. I decided to not go no-contact and just be straight up and honest about everything and showing her that I never cheated on her. Even though it means that I can lose her

If you're with a girl that you believe will "not -care" if you go no contact, then the relationship is already out the door. No girl is above the no contact with a guy that she genuinely love. Stop being a kid man. You didn't do shit wrong, so stop acting like it. A woman is only going to treat us as guilty as we allow them to.

So stop it.. Go no contact.

If she doesn't come back; is that the kind of girl you want?

They always come back man.. From the baddest of the baddest to the worse of the worst.

Unless she was already cheating on you; which would explain her overreaction and "going through you phone", but thats a whole nother story.

Just stop wimping out with ridicules long post on forums.. These are the kinds of guys that get left.

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Drop the ego act the poster aboves advice is terrible


Tell her the truth and if u love her chase her down to tell her and leave it be at that point if she doesn't come to then that's her bad

It was just a joke seriously guys do dumb shit like that

"Tell her the truth and if u love her chase her down to tell her" - He's already done that if you actually read the post..

And besides that.. I don't see what you said much different than I. I'm speaking to a guy thats already chased her down and explained himself. What more is there? lol

Take more time out to read the entire post; and you'll probably give more quality advice.

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I really appreciate the time that u guys take to give me advice. I really do.
I dont agree that going no-contact will be a good idea. The no-contact rule is mostly used for punishing bad behavior. I dont think im punishing anything at the moment.
Obviously im not going to be chasing her like her little puppy either.
Correct me if im wrong but I feel like I should let her cool down a little bit and let her miss me and then try contacting her and still saying that it was just a joke. What do you guys think about this idea?

When you let someone cool off, you let them come to you.. Just relax.. She needs time to think those over; texting and calling anymore will become overbearing an be a turn off.

Just chill man. I've been here many times before. Chill. She'll contact you I promise.

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How long do u think I should wait until I call it quits and try to move on?
I agree with you on this. Its kind of a fine line to walk tho. But yeah ill do it. Me and her always kept constant communication throughout the day, everyday. So just 1 day of no contact seems like a lot for us. So assuming about 3-5 days?

If she doesn't contact you by the fifth day.. PM me. And I gotcha.

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You sound like a really nice guy so don't panic just yet. I think because you were both so close this is really freaking you out. Don't keep going over what you initially said to her as it will piss her off. Give her some breathing space and next week send her a huge bouquet of flowers to her at work. Sending them to her work is crucial here as women love that. If you know what flowers she likes, get 'em and send them with a card saying 'I miss and love you'. Be honest with her. Don't play stupid mind games. Good luck buddy!