so, I'm fairly successful when I'm out drinking. I met, kissed fondled a hb8-9 over the weekend but I don't live in that area so I sent her a message letting her know that when I was back in the area I would take her out somewhere. She agreed. So that's good.

My problem is. And this has happened before on a few occasions is that it is hard to reignite the passion from our previous encounter. I could only isolate for a short period of time over the weekend. Otherwise the outcome would have been different for sure.

So, say I do meet this girl in a month or two. How do I make it work. Should I put in some pre-game on Facebook etc?

I'm not too bothered as we live opposite sides of the country but it would be nice to make it work if I am over there, which I occasionally am.

Cheers

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Get on her the phone or FaceTime/SPAM as soon as possible. What you have to do is position yourself with the girl in an emotional place.

I used to always do the phone call thing because I'm good at.. I'd call her girl and spend 45mins - 2 hours on the phone with her talking about absolutely nothing. After that she feels like she knows you so you can call her at anytime, even months later and set something up.

But recently one of my clients said I should try the FaceTime thing, so I do it now and it works twice as effectively.. You can get sexual with a lot more ease, because they can see your facial expressions and get turned on.

Try either or.. Although I do want to tell you that you've already placed yourself as some guy that may come around or may not in her mind with the text you sent. So you gave some ground to cover, but just send her a text saying "Whats your FaceTime/SPAM? " .. And then call her. 1 hour on FaceTime should solidify your spot. Its almost like a quick date.

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Won't let me reply to this!

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Ah, some sound advice! I can see this being effective. I have set myself up to fail though I think.

Basically it was at a post-wedding house party. Mid party I isolated and took her upstairs it was all good but privacy wasn't really an option. You know how it is. People poking their oar in! Anyway I said we should go and continue partying. After this she just got real smashed and about 4 of us offered to take her home. I knew what was happening but didn't have much control of the situation.

Anyway we continued the party at hers but there was no way I could isolate. I was touching her a bit but she wasn't into it by that point. When we all left she was a bit distant, especially from me. I think I have her too much attention. So I didn't get her number. But she'd already added me on Facebook.

I left it a 2 days before I sent her the message on Facebook. I will show you the messages. I would appreciate harsh criticism as I know this is a persistent sticking point for me.

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Here are the messages:

Me:Well, **** ! Our weekend of awesomeness has just about finished! You certainly were on form! I hope you enjoyed it, Saturday was a long, long day!

You're a pretty lady. And after our chat at ****'s, I'm convinced you're also a very intelligent lady!

I'm not normally a very messagy person after I have only met someone once but you did, in fact, make me promise that I would send you a message after convincing you that I didn't solely want to get into your pants. I'm a man if my word so here is my message!

I'm a reasonable man. We live on opposite sides if the country but I'm very glad we met. Next time I'm about I'll let you know and I'll buy you a coffee. Now there is something for you to look forward to! every girls dream! ha x

That was a joke by the way! x

Her (some time later) Hey ***,

Haha!! You're message did make me laugh! Sorry if I made you promise that!

Thank you that's very sweet of you to say! It was really nice meeting you too. It was a birthday and wedding to remember! Thanks for your help, you were so funny! Glad you had a great night too

I had to be up 2 hours later to drive for about 2hours, that was tough!

Haha! Don't put yourself down! Yea sure, it would be nice to keep in touch! Don't worry I'm not always such a handful ha! X

Me: Yeah, I knew you couldn't be that mental all of the time! Ha! Take care x

I know I shouldn't have left it quite so open. Not sure how to reverse that now! Would like to know what you make to it all.

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Haha hows that for the guys that follow these lame pick up rules stating your messages should always be short and sweet.. Thats why I tell all of these guys; its not what you do, its how you do it. If you're in a good frame, and you have options with women you can do whatever the fuck you want and the girls are still going to like you.

Anyway..

It was dope with the exception of the last message.. Just the last part of it saying " Take Care" - Why close the door? Never close the door.. EVER.

You can still send " You have FaceTime/SPAM? " - And just see what happens; even if she doesn't it'll open the door back up.

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Haha! Yeah, that was a little lame. Ah well.

Thanks for your advice man.

Anyway, what I thought of doing was organising an event over there on facebook...massive weekend thing with all of our friends. Not solely for this purpose but thought it would be funny to put in the Itinery for the weekend plans like ..... Friday night: drinks at wherever Saturday morning: ***** let's me take her for the most romantic coffee she's ever had in her life....Sat night: everyone Drinks Etc.

She's a character so I think she'll see the humour in it. Also might spark her to talk to me? who knows!

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haha thats dope. Any girl would love that.

Do it.

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