I’m 43 and got divorced five years ago. As I live in a village and am busy most of the time with work and childcare I don't have time for clubbing and I mostly meet women through internet dating.
I don’t have too much difficulty getting a reasonable percentage of attractive women to like me on a date. But whether I like them enough to have a proper relationship is a very different matter.
While I’m waiting to meet the right woman, I still want to have fun and have at least a bit of regular no strings sex with women along the way. Neil Strauss and others seem to suggest that it’s easy to persuade women to have no strings sex without lying or deceiving if you frame it right and remove the barriers – but he doesn’t go into any detail and I can’t for life of me work it out. All the women I meet online say they are looking for a relationship (or worse use phrases like ‘The One’ and 'Mr Right!') It seems they turn off from me immediately if I try to establish something more casual. How do you do it? Please tell! The more specific tips you can give me the better please.
I’m hoping you’re not going to say I’m looking in the wrong place as going out to bars and nightclubs is a difficult option for me the way my life is set up.
I believe that there must be a way and that these online women do want sex – let’s face it everyone does.
Many thanks for your help!

Well... You're looking in the wrong place if you want a SANE girl who you can hook up with casually. The best place to meet those girls is to go out.

Manage your time better so you can go out.

All you're going to find online are girls that are absolutely, bat shit crazy. Have drug problems. Daddy issues. A bunch of drama. THERE IS A REASON THEY ARE LOOKING FOR A BOYFRIEND ONLINE. Cause no other guy wants them. You're scrapping off the bottom of the barrel dude.

If you can't find 2 hours a night to go out, then how are you going to find the time to hang out and have sex with a girl? Do you think you can really just find a girl who's actually semi normal that will just let you cum on her back and then leave? You've atleast gotta make the girl a LITTLE comfortable and not leave her feeling like a total slut who you just used as a place to blow your load. C'mon man.

Or go do "day game." Online dating is for people that don't know how to communicate with other people. Those girls are girls who suck at communicating with other people. They are weird. They are clingy.

If you want a girl that you can just emotionally abuse, it's gonna be some huge hog off of Craigslist where you won't be able to tell the difference between her rolls and her holes or you're gonna pay for it.

If you want to get good with women, you have to go out and interact with alot of them.... Not through a computer.

Hi

Thanks for your reply - I do appreciate it.

I'm not talking about emotionally abusing anyone - I'm not that type of person at all. And I'm not going to be meeting any women I don't find attractive just to get laid!!

I'm just trying to work out how to initiate more casual types of relationship that's all (while I'm looking for a proper GF), rather than it being all or nothing with every woman. I've got friends who do this kind of no strings stuff, so I'm just trying to figure out how they do it!

The large majority of single people above a certain age have tried internet dating, so I don't think you can say they are all crazy. Yes I've met some that are and plenty that aren't. And I've had one good relationship and several near misses in terms of meeting a girlfriend online - and I do have high standards when it comes to GFs - so I wouldn't say it's necessarily scraping the barrel either if you don't mind kissing a few frogs along the way.

You're absolutely right I should get out more and I'm working on that. But whether I meet a woman online or offline is beside the point I think - the point is when I do meet them and find them attractive but not sure if they are necessarily proper GF material - how do I still initiate a more casual sexual relationship?

Thanks again

I'm not sure what your work experience is, but if you've ever worked in sales you'll completely understand what I am about to say.

Part of the reason a great salesman is successful is because despite how good or shitty his product may be, he has convinced himself that everyone needs it. He's convinced himself that he'll selling it at a bargain price, and that it is a great product. Because he is so convinced himself, the people he goes to sell to influenced by his own conviction; he believes in it so convincingly that even if they doubt him, they may give the product a shot just because he believes in it so much. They'll begin to even doubt themselves and what they want. All he has to do is believe they need the product more than they believe they don't.

Women work the same way.. What they say they "want" is irrelevant.. They're on online dating because they haven't been getting it.

You have to believe in your product. You have to believe that your so good that a woman will take no string attached sex with you, because at least she gets to be around you. Your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits and your habits become your character. So through proper thinking you'll get there.

You're fresh out of a marriage, you've been out the game for a while, its understandable; and you can get right back on your feet in a couple weeks with the right mindset. If you're interested, PM me and I'll see what I can do for you.

Peace & Love

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