I attempted a cold approach this Saturday (see this other thread
http://www.puaforums.com/how-approach-w ... -late.html) and it made realize something: I am sometimes anxious when I deal with some girls. I don't say it happens often, but I do feel some level of discomfort when I really like the girl or when I start talking to a total stranger girl.
Take for example my last encounter. It was a girl I saw on dating site. I really liked her and wanted to message her but for some reason my account kept being deleted and I gave up in the end. That was some months ago. So, I had this big surprise yesterday as I saw her standing next to me at a concert and couldn't believe my eyes. I talked to her and number closed.
Well, during those 2-3 mins we talked, my heart was racing like crazy, I could feel my body was trembling a bit (I don't think it was visible as it was dark anyways) and my voice was slightly shaky. I did decide to give it a go as I hate living with regrets. I am at least proud I had the guts to do it.
What I would like however is to get rid of these sensations. I really don't understand myself anymore. Why does my body react like that? Why do I even feel stressed or inferior to any of these girls? I mean, I have plenty of selling-points, I have a good job, have lived in several countries and I am a fun guy to be around. My anxiety simply does not make any sense...
I am kinda new to PUA and I haven't done many cold approaches so far, but they have been an ok experience, especially when I didn't really care about the girl and was just practicing. So, this nuisance I report does not show up everytime, but it hurts my game when it does.
I also don't display any such anxiety when I am at parties or meetups.
I don't know, I find it easier and more natural to approach people in these settings as everyone is there to make new friends. Although, there was this one time at a party, a chick was hitting on me and asked me at some point why I was scared of her. I was kinda surprised by the question as I didn't particularly feel intimidated, but I was maybe taken aback because she made the first move (she was American). This made wonder whether I am externalizing signs of anxiety (my wingmen say that I don't, but it could happen when they are not looking)...
Just for the record, as a teenager, I was quite shy and antisocial. I have gone a long way to become the person I am today, but I still have some work to do. I really want to be this confident guy that feels 100% comfortable with anybody, and especially girls.
Any advice is welcome, guys. Did you have similar experiences?
Thanks!
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