I try to avoid asking questions on here that relate to just 1 person because there are so many women out there, 1 isn't worth the hassle in most cases, however I feel this is a shit test and see no reason we should stop seeing each other.

We saw each other yesterday and had a good time, I was very direct and sexual but she didn't let me go further than sucking on her neck, kissing and feeling her up. She's 35, I'm 22.

'I will have to decline [my invite to go to a friend's party], we have had fun and you were very exciting as promised haha.
As for taking it further I'm going to have to say no.
Clocks, you are a very funny, direct and handsome man who quite frankly shouldn't be wasting your time on someone like me.
So let's just leave things as they are and at least when we meet in the future we can still have a laugh and a joke with no uncomfortable stuff.
Now I know for you it means I don't become 107 [girls I joked I've had in 2 weeks] and I'd hate to be the one who ruins your glowing record but sometmies you lose one along the way haha.
I don't think it will take you to long to fill it? '

SHe knows i'm not up for something serious. It seems almost like a shit test

= "That's cool, I'm sure you have a hot sister?"

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Seems more like you didn't make her feel special. Not a test.

I'm thinking you could pull an Eminem into this one but Masterminds nailed it. You weren't engaging at her emotional level, purely a sexual level so she graciously let you go and I don't think she is looking for a lover RHRN.

Method of Madness - Pull away (if you can) hold it for 2 weeks - CHILL (no contact) - then re-engage. Something like 'I think you're right. Now I know we said things, did things that we didn't mean and now we fall back into the same patterns, same routine. Let's go on more adventures. Fuck the routines ' (and bring her to a romantic picnic - no flowers but enjoy the scenery and escalate from there)

Suggestions on a fix?

I was very into her so I would have thought she felt good from the attention I gave her. Maybe it's because she's got / I've given her the impression I do this with a lot of women (not even true)

She's said she feels weird about the age thing, especially as we have the same circle of friends so would be out together in front of everyone hmm

we both want something casual though

Since you said its casual, I think the party threw her off? If you go with a HB to a party its usually assumed that you two are together? Others correct me if I'm wrong.

Fair point, it is with people in our circle of friends. And they already know because I asked if I could bring her and then word got around. Maybe she's unhappy that everyone knows, but she did tell her sister (who's in the circle of friends) and her boyfriend she was gonna meet me yesterday...

Women...

I am in my 30s, for her it likely is an age thing, 22 is VERY young, especially for somebody who is presumably established. She's looking for something else, it's not a diss to you its just where you're at in your life right now, and she's being really cool about it (as much as texting stuff like that is lame, it's become normative).

Simply be respectful and humble "I respect your decision, it was cool hanging with you".

Be the grounded man you aspire to be, non-reactive, rather responsive. Don't worry you'll have tonnes of opportunities, you guys are just on different pages of the book is all. Look at the success you had opening her and creating something OUT OF NOTHING! That's the golden nugget here, your gift. Don't worry about the outcome of this, there will be others that come along. Why? Because you're a creator of opportunities.

Part of being successful with women, and life as a whole is learning the art of LETTING GO (Acceptance of what is). Why? The sooner you accept reality, the sooner you free yourself up for other ventures. Getting trapped in one's ego (holding on) will only hold you back. The guy who can faster let go will sooner find himself with countless opportunities because his mind will be freed up and receptive to new things that come his way.

Now make it happen.

Oooh bringing in the muscles . Can you kick box in case shit turns ugly? Otherwise you can do a Tyler

You've gotta be way more discrete about it man. Especially in this situation...

She can't look like "the whore who fucks the young blood."

Bringing her to a party is NOT discrete.

Reminds me of the True Blood babe

I think this may actually be the first time I've ever offered this advice on this forum....

Ignore her for a little while(a week or more). Then text her and tell her she's been on your mind and you want to see her.

And yeah, for future reference, taking girls to parties isn't discreet.

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RSDTyler

Totally not on topic, but am I the only one who uses a fluid age in both directions based on the girl I'm talking to?

I noticed two loose rules, years ago. Rule #1 being same age is a-ok, but even one year younger is a huge problem. Rule #2 more than 7 years older is a problem, 10 years is often a deal breaker.

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RSDTyler

"We had so much fun lol and alright I'll see you around! "

Put it behind you and she'll pop back up in a week or so.

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