Hey guys here's what's up met this girl a few days ago. Cool girl lots of similar interests we talked for about an hour when we 1st met then as we were about to part ways I was gonna get her # but somehow the topic of fb came up she added me and I settled for that. We've had 2 good convo's over fb they start off strong then it started to die out so I'd say something emotionally stirring to keep it going, but it would eventually die out.

With that background info here's my question. How do y'all keep convo's from dying out or do you just let it go and pick it up later when you feel like it or when she iniates?

I don't have a Facebook anymore, but the problem I had with Facebook back when I did, was trying to keeping the convo going. Eventually, I stopped trying to carry conversations on fb except for a meet/date.

In my opinion, social media seems to be causing us to interact with each other less because we're not treating them like normal people, they're just subjects for our entertainment. Social media and texting is way too convenient for everyone involved.

He wants to talk to her, so he says hi, she responds, drops him a few lines, her BFF gets online to give her the scoop and then it's "see you next year" from her.

Don't let that happen. Schedule something and you can catch up on conversation when you meet.

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You have to insist on a # before any topic of fb comes up. I agree that fb, tinder whatever may have you is a pain in the ass. Nothing vibes like getting some face time and being up from about your intentions. I just tell ladies that a girl I know set up my fb (which she did) and I really do not use it.

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I agree with both you guys. I always go for the number, but for some reason I don't know why I settled for fb. Usually what I do in situations like this I'll be talking to her on fb and say something like hey I'm totally out of data on my phone what's your number I'll give a call something of that nature. I personally enjoy talking on the phone much rather than texting/fb chat. I find on fb like International said there are too many distractions.

All that time you're spending on fbook chatting her up could be used hanging out with her in person. Just saying.

fbook gives her the opportunity to judge all your photos, judge what your social status might be, how much money you might earn etc. Don't give her that option. If she wants to know more about you she's gonna have to work for it. If she's not willimg earn it she's not worth your time

If you're meeting randoms in clubs, always say no to facebook.

I never give out my fb to randoms in clubs. As far as getting the fb add instead of her number momentary lapse in judgement I guess you'd say. Now the important thing is getting it off fb onto the phone where I can actually talk to her and set up a date and what not.

in response to Jeffy P's comment I didn't push for a meet up because she has a big fight tonight actually as a boxer I know what a detriment a distraction can be so it wouldn't be fair to her.

I got her # sent her a txt let her know it was me. Was gonna call her just didn't have time. We talked a little bit over txt total day and night difference from talking to her on fb. We're going out tonight afterward provided all goes well.

WTF shes a boxer; fucking creepy. But make sure u call/text only to setup dates and sometimes to keep things hot. Don't drag on the convo on text because you will not have much conversation left when you do go on a date.

my main goal is to use Facebook to get the number, use number to make a call, make a call to make a date. If you manage to not act like total creep and make her laugh a little then this is very easy.

by not caring if they die out or not

stop being the entertainer it looks needy

After talking to you for an HOUR in person, this girl is either up for dating or she's just buddies with you.
Don't even worry about the number at this point. Just ask her out over FB chat.

Yes, in the future, #s are better, but it's not a huge deal either way. There's nothing you can say over text you can't say over FB chat. There's nothing you can say on the phone you can't say over SPAM. The medium isn't very important, it's all about her interest.

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its not that I have a problem with convos dying out all the time. I always end on a hight note, but the odd time they'll die out I just wondered what y'all do let it die or stoke the fire? Guess it all depends on the situation. Anyway I have a date set up with her for tonight so its all good.

Always be the first to end the conversation. Don't wait for her to say she's tired etc.

Your problem is not 'how do I keep the conversation going', it should be "how do I STFU and arrange a date".

Chatting to you online is like a hit of cocaine to her the first time. Then the more she does it, the less exciting you become. The purpose of chatting is to arrange a time and place to meet. The purpose of meeting is to escalate towards sex.

Your goal should be how to kill online chats and get her in your bed, NOT how to prolong the chats. The more you chat, the more you risk exposing how boring you are to her. At least if you keep your mouth shut, you will seem mysterious and aloof.

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