Right let's get to it..

I've been sleeping with this HB8.7 for about 2-3 months now which has been a constant push pull effort from my stand-point to keep this girl interested and accepting of the fact that the relationship is what it is - Fuckbuddies..
But recently just last week she has come out and said she "needs me and loves me" Ha.. HEAVY DAYS!

Anyway... I let her know that I have a lot going on in my life right now and am not in a position to make a decision on getting into a relationship - This is true. She seemed to agree to keep things as they were and see how things pan out.

BUT... Just NOW she has texted me saying the exact following:

" I've just been thinking and I might be completely wrong but if you want the perks and responsibility, I'm happy to stick around if that needs to be the case. I just don't want to be held back and be led on by thinking that this might actually eventuate into something..."

Do you think this is genuine or a massive shit test? How would you guys take this one on?
All the help is much appreciated my brothers.

Well, as is usually the case with these things, the girl might be holding out for you to "realize" how amazing she is etc. etc.

If she brought it up a few times already, you know she's thinking about it, stressing about it and trying to make sense of it.

YOUR best case scenario: She realizes that its a lost cause to date you so she'll let you smash until she finds another dude

So, yeah its a shit test. She's just trying to get a clear answer from you so that she can come to terms with moving on. So even if she's still sleeping with you, its for a limited time. In the end, she IS looking for something deeper so she'll get it, just not from you. And that's cool right?

She wants something more, and doesn't want her time wasted. If you can't provide that for her, she'll find the next guy in line who will. You aren't anything special, she will move on and replace. If you're cool with that continue as you have been.

This is pretty clear cut as far as I can see. She's wanting reciprocated feelings.
Her thinking appears to be "I'm in love with him, and he just wants me for sex".

That right there is your problem.

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" I think you're thinking too much. We can talk about this the next time I see you "

Don't think into it as much as she is thinking about it.

Just make love to her the next time you see her and let her know that you're lifes a bit heavy, but you want her to be around. Just give it some time.

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How can a HB be 8.7?

LMFAO

How often are you sleeping with her?

I'll put it to you this way... If you're fucking a girl a few times a week, she's eventually going to expect something more. (i.e. a committed relationship) That's what girls do. They want to lock a man down.

If you want a fuck buddy situation to last, you can't sleep with her very often. You've gotta rotate her out with different girls.

See... you're treating her like she's your "girlfriend" (a girl who you can fuck as much as you want) but you're not giving her the full on boyfriend experience. (loving her for more than her vagina)

Start seeing her less.

And you know what... if this girl wants a relationship and you don't, break it off. Either shit or get off the pot.

Fuck buddies dynamics are doomed. So long as except that you WILL lose her to some guy one day.

I'm going through somehow similar. My FB booticalled me and I met up with her. I was kissing a black girl on a club and I had her foundation on my face and she told me that it's cool but I know deep down it isn't In her head

Now she asking me if I have slept with other girls since her. I also gave her chlamydia at the start too which adds salt to the wound..

She is getting feelings so I am trying to see her less and less. I told her that it's cool if he hooks up with other guys but if she gets in a relationship I would feel a a little gutted. But I'm quite confident nobody will fuck her as good as I do.

It's the curse of wanting to be single I'm afraid. It sounds like it's fading away to to reply to the OP's problem.

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