Hi all, long time lurker, first time poster.

This may sound strange, but I met someone through a game online who turns out to live within driving distance of my family, who I visit a couple times a year and up soon. We've talked a lot... gotten to know each other reasonably well in a short period of time. Talked about f*cking many times, that seems to be the plan; I have pics, we know each others sex lives (she's with a woman, open). Thing is, I've noticed that I'm getting some oneitis, despite getting sex from a hottie consistently; this woman really attracts me intellectually and emotionally as well as physically. And it's starting to come off a little strong. She clearly has some feelings, and has admitted as much, but I'm pretty sure that at least today I came across as clingy. We had a bit of a romantic moment a couple of days ago and I think maybe that stirred it up. Pretty sure she's been trying to make me a bit jealous by talking about her gf more; she said she wasn't sure if she wanted me to be jealous or not. I eventually admitted that I didn't love that she was involved with her (d'oh!) but said that I understood because she lived away, etc, didn't want to rob her of a source of joy. And I think I messaged her too often today when I should have given her space since she was trying to take a break from online. I don't think it's too late yet - I find it hard to imagine that these little things would kill the attraction outright after so much time and "game" (at this point just my personality to be cocky and playful)... tell me if you think otherwise. But I need to put the brakes on this before I go off the deep end. Telling me to f*ck other women won't work because I'm already f*cking a hot one that I genuinely care about.

So, yeah. Please tell me (1) what I can do to recover from the flub - let her be the first to message me next time? etc and (2) how I can try to control these feelings, which arise out of a bizarre situation and as much mental attraction as physical.