Hey guys. All around noob here, I'm 25yo and recently broke up with my high school sweet heart fiance and decided I want to put myself out there socially in order to find the right girl for me and become the best person I can be.
Although I am a decent looking guy, I am very shy around girls and intimidated by them because I have been in a relationship for the vast majority of my adult life and haven't had any experience interacting with them while single. I believe I am a great guy with a lot to offer the right girl so I need to face my fears on a daily basis and get over this massive social anxiety I feel when around attractive women.
My goal is to approach 500-1000? women over the next few months, starting tomorrow. Is that achievable for an ambitious beginner?

Well I've gone out for the past three evenings trying to approach, without any success. I think I am worse off then I thought because this is way harder than I would have imagined. When I think about it everything seems so easy, but when I actually see a girl I want to approach I just can't fucking do it. I have no problems making eye contact, saying hi, or talking to strangers, but when it comes to approaching and complimenting a cute girl I just can't pull the trigger. I want to be 100% direct too, hopefully what I'm going through is because direct is hard for beginners.

Hey Bro! whats up, what do you do for fun?


I like your attitude about yourself, pua refer to this as "inner-game". Keep building on this. You are an awesome guy with something fun and unique to offer only the women who understand just how valuable you are.

As far as approaching goes, consider mixing both direct and indirect into your game. Can I ask why you say you want to go 100% direct? Anyway, Mystery, one of the greatest pick up artists of our time, took weeks to approach his first girl. It isn't always the easiest thing to walk up to a random girl, but guess what, they want you to talk to them... even if they don't know it yet! You need to realize you have this life, and this life only. Everytime you let a beautiful woman walk away you are giving up an an amazing opportunity and this just isn't fair to her . Also realize that walking up to a woman and saying "There is something about you that made me walk over here to learn more" isn't difficult or weird. Its basic human interaction. Do the female population a favor and approach your first girl, don't even worry about a number close or anything. You will feel invincible after the first. Just walk up and tell her she is beautiful and you want to get to know her better. IF she rejects you than she is losing out and we don't really give a fuck about girls who don't see our value anyway.

I hope this helps

Welcome to the forum. It sucks to break up with your HS sweet heart, but you're young given the opportunity of a life time to finally enjoy your 20s the way we should (IMO). We've all been there where we'll accept death befor approaching the girl you have your eyes on. It gets better after you have 10-15 approaches and reference experience under your belt telling you that approaching/complimenting women isn't that bad. Going direct is my preferred method as well (I am focusing more on day game myself) and I find it time saving, and yields more results.


A few things:
1. If a woman rejects you, is bitchy, or isn't responsive know that it is EMOTIONAL not PERSONAL
2. Which brings me to point #2 there is no such thing as a rejection, use it as reference experience
3. I am incorporating some canned materials (questions/topics I think of the day before), I find it a bit useful if I run out if things to say. Try some canned materials
4. This is very important, give yourself credit when you approach. Don't kill yourself I'd you don't approach every single lady on the street.
5. Lastly, enjoy the process of your transformation

Well I finally did it. After 4 days of trying lmao finally manned the fuck up and did it. I know it's the most basic of the basic but god damn it took every ounce of courage and will power I had to break past that little bitch ass socially programmed voice in my head trying to hold me back. Whew I feel like a king lol. Trying to stay grounded tho, I know doing it once doesn't mean shit. Thanks for the wise words and advice guys I read your replies over and over today, they helped a lot.
Alphabro- I used to play video games, drink with buddies for fun. Recently since I've broken up with my ex I've been all work and no play tho. I want to be 100% direct because I think I'm just more interested in facing my fears and breaking down my social paradigms then just getting laid or getting another girlfriend, and girls I would say are easily my biggest fear.