| After looking into materials from a ton of the primary PUG's,
like Mystery, David D., Juggler, Tyler (RSD), etc.
I've come to this very important conclusion:
There is no set standard way to open.
Anything will work if it's done right.
The other night, I was walking on campus to one of my exams.
It's freezing cold where I'm at, just for the record.
Anyways, I get to a crosswalk, waiting for the walk sign,
and there's a girl waiting there.
I thought I'd try something:
Me: The Bahamas.
Her: What?
Me: If I could pick anywhere in the world to be right now... it'd be the Bahamas.
Her: Ohhhhh *laughs*
Me: Your turn, pick somewhere.
...and so on.
She couldn't pick a place, I made fun of her for having no imagination,
then we talked about our best vacations, blah blah.
All I did was ramble off a random thought.
Yet it worked.
Just something to mention...
I've noticed that you really can say anything during day-game, and it'll work.
As long as you can follow through accordingly.
Night-game (bars, clubs, large parties), on the other hand, is tricky sometimes.
With night-game, I don't neccessarily used canned opinion openers, etc.
What I'll do is think outside of the box:
If I were a part of their group, and I saw some random guy come up,
what would I be thinking in my head?
1) "Who's this guy?"
2) "What does this guy want?"
3) "How long do we have to deal with him?"
I call it a defensive auto-pilot.
People get really personal with their friends,
as if their good time is for them only,
and they don't want a stranger to come in and fuck it up.
So your opener just has to answer these questions in a harmless manor.
That's exactly why the opinion opener works...
1) You're just a random guy, NOT trying to intrude,
2) All you want is a simple opinion on something (no deeper inner-motives), and
3) It's just a quick question, only have a minute, etc (Style's time constraint).
But you don't have to use an opinion opener.
Anything spontaneous, interesting, and harmless,
that shows no further intentions, or further investments of time, will do.
And even that isn't a rule, lol.
Just my thoughts. _________________ You can learn and learn and learn all you want... but until you go out and use it, it doesn't mean a thing.
Last edited by Element on Fri Feb 09, 2007 5:05 pm, edited 2 times in total.
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