So i'm 20 and i'm a college student, and the unexpected happened last weekend

At this point i'm numb about the whole "losing my v-card" thing and decide that it would happen whenever, well one of my friends from a local university came to my school as a date to my fraternity's date party.

Long story short: we went to the party for a bit, had a little to drink, we went back and she basically raped me.

And yall are probably wondering about what kind of sexual escalation techniques i used, or how I DHV at that party to her or how i did this, that and the other. Well the way I did all of it was this:

Nothing... absolutely nothing

We were friends from the get go that had mutual feelings of attraction to each other, and the only reason she ever felt a strong sexual attraction to me was for the simple reason that i treated her like a person unlike every other guy she ever was with.

This was a bit anti-climactic for me because i always thought i had to say the right thing to get a girl to want to have sex with me... well after joining the PUA community, doing my homework and try to get rid of this cumbersome vcard.

Ok so even though nothing really might come out of this for anyone else, I realized something important out of this.

To spare details: I realized what i was working with, i learned how to do "it" properly, and i realized that i was not bad, and that honestly it was fun for me but she enjoyed it way more than I did.

I have something great, and I learned that honestly if a women is going to turn me down it is by no means a loss to me. This might come across as cocky, but in all honesty losing my vcard has been the most enlightening thing that has ever happened to me; I realized that sex is a mutual enjoyment between partners, i learned more about myself as well as my sexual strengths, and that women that are so called "bitchy" or "stuck-up" are really doing themselves more of a disservice than they are to me. I value what i got, and finally realized what i do have.

A new chapter in my PUA career has started...

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Good job bro. I am proud of you, and you have a very positive attitude in pick up, which is great.

Keep up the good work!

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congrads, bro! Just don't stop at this point or you'll lose interest quickly.

I remember the first time I had sex. I remember it was unprotected and way wetter than I ever expected. That's right, wetter, not better.

LOL now that you have that image in your head, congrats bro.

Congrats bro, this confidence and your positive attitude will help you immensely if you decide to meet more women. You may notice some shifts in the way that women in general are reacting to you.

I know, the difference is immense, and i have yet to be turned down by any woman that i approach, however i still have work to do.

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Congrats man! And well spoken on the topic of not taking it personally should a girl turn you down. Definitely one of the best things you could ever learn from the community. It really changes your outlook on this kind of stuff and you generally feel happier in yourself with every interaction regardless of outcome.

Now, about your lay. Yeah, it happens. Some people just connect like that(You'd honestly be surprised at how many people "connect" with you). When that happens I believe you just feel it. You get that feeling in your gut that says you should like her and it's generally because she likes you too. I do remember reading something -- maybe even on these forums with links to scientific studies -- about how our bodies actually pick up on this stuff and things like "butterflies" are the bodies way of saying you're into her and she's into you. If this is the case all it takes is initiation and not much gaming because you've already connected regardless of how much or how little or how bad or good the interactions between you were.

One thing you should take from PUA is that it's meant for meeting women and generating attraction then impressing them and convincing them you're of quality enough to sleep with. It's not exactly for existing relationships although to a lesser degree it does address those and it's either hit or miss(Lets be honest not everything works for women at this point).

SO are you saying that when you feel butterflies, usually that means that the other person probably feels the same way? Or not?

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