Hi,

I have changed my dating attitude and i am more direct lately.
Normally i used to be friendly perhaps a bit feminine.

So normally I would text back and forth for few weeks, response instantly to her text etc.
I am more busy lately, and dont respond to text immediately.

However I never had cancelled dates until recent where to all seem to flake.
Nowadays I bring up dating pretty quick, for example if she asks something about my travelling experience i say "hey, why don't we talk to over with a nice glass of wine! would like to get together!"
Set definate date and pretty much radio sllence after that.

They all responded enthusiastic, but all cancel after a couple of days, saying basically that they changed their mind about dating me.

I am clueless...

Where are you meeting these girls?

How many have done this?

Small piece of advice, don't call it a date, and don't say yall are dating, at least not til after you've banged her.

If you want to meet up you tell them you're going to go somewhere and that she should come and hang out or something like that. Come over to my place to hang out, or let's meet up at such n such bar.

Various places, bars, tinder, online

How many have done this?

2 out of 5.

Small piece of advice, don't call it a date, and don't say yall are dating, at least not til after you've banged her.

If you want to meet up you tell them you're going to go somewhere and that she should come and hang out or something like that. Come over to my place to hang out, or let's meet up at such n such bar.[/quote]

i never call it a date, but more like we should hang out, coffee, wine, fun, etc..

Absolutely.

"Why don't we...?" is weak. Look at what it is asking. You've just asked her to come up with a reason not to.

Make it "let's..." or "I'm going to [wherever], come and meet up".

^ This. Simply removing the word "Date" seems to take the edge off for some girls.