Friends, I have failed miserably once more, to successfully engage with the one girl I am truly interested in.

Since I met this girl earlier this year I had been flirting with her - mostly on FB, finding common ground, setting shit up, etc. I was getting a lot of interest. She would like everything I posted even though I liked none of hers.

So the other night we finally see each other again at a party. Not making excuses but I was dead tired having been to multiple appointments the entire day, so by the time I got there I was running on empty and not really feeling it. So I gassed up with whatever was left, engaged with her a bit. I had become close to her inner circle of "sisters" and got their comfort. That night she was showering me with IOIs. She would move close to me and bring up things we talked about before, small things that should have been forgotten like how we both like spicy food. She would notice my appearance like my cheeks or my hair.

Needless to say I failed to react properly and provide a deeper level of engagement that night.

So the next day I gave out a feeler message, telling her I found our culprit (she could not get off my car the night before, because the child lock was on). All I got in response was a smile.

Hours later I sent another feeler, telling her to check out this funny photo from the party. One liner response.

Yeah I know I'm supposed to move on and meet other girls. Been setting things up and talking to multiple girls for the past 48 hours. None of them however have any effect. There's even this model who wants me to come over, but I have no plans to do so.

Oneitis much, but this happens all the time. I always, always mess things up with the one girl I truly am interested in. The last time I found someone I was truly interested in was over a year ago, after literally going through so many women.

I know this will come off as having weak inner game but I can't help but feel that I am cursed or some shit. Fuck it. I am just tired of sleeping and playing around and wanna just chill with someone I truly am into. Just thinking of having to endure another 1-2 years before finding someone I am totally interested in is really depressing.

Sorry for the rant.

Dude you're blinded with oneitis right now ya it didn't go how you would have liked it, but oh well. Here is what you do FUCK texting be a man call her!! Have a good convo with her keep a strong frame and at the end ask her out. Something along the lines of I gotta run, but how about you and I grab a drink this friday say 9:30 at such and such place? Just be cool I've had situations where I thought all was lost because I didn't like the way the txt came off only to call her and find out totally different. One thing I can't stress enough is the power of a strong phone call. Especially if a girl doesn't like talking on the phone and you can make her like talking to you major points. Anyway hope that helps good luck mate!!

Yeah dude it is oneitis I admit it fully. I have totally lost interest in anyone else right now, it's like I'm going through the motions of setting things up with other girls just to keep my mind off her ... it's fun and I do enjoy other girls but it feels hollow inside.

Anyway I did send a re-engagement message the other day. I said "okay, so we're ignoring each other for now?" to which she apologized saying she was out shopping. I responded saying "what did you get for me?" and it went to the seen zone.

I don't think I'm going to call her though. As much as I want to. After all, she hasn't been responsive enough and I don't like the way she is responding to my messages. Which is really puzzling because she acts like she is totally into me in real life. So WTF right? She just wants my attention? Oh well.

dude I know 100% what you mean about feeling hollow been there, but she's busy so you be busy to I say give her a week with no contact make her wonder about you. When a girl gets a seed in her mind I've lost him it grows quickly into thoughts maybe he's found somebody else will I ever see him again? Fuck I lost him. I really did like him after all, and she'll likely get back to you. If she hasn't contacted you in a weeks time call her say Hey haven't talked much lately just wondered what's new and exciting in your world? I've done exactly that before and it works perfectly, but you have to call her! I used to rely heavily on texting, but now I only use it to keep a girl thinking about me in between times I see her. I didn't realize the power in a strong phone convo until another poster on here told me to stop being a bitch pick up the phone and call her.

Anyway hope that helps good luck!!

Hey thanks for cheering me up buddy. I swear I'm so down and depressed right now.

Would you call/text someone if you haven't gone out yet? So far FB/text works but thinking of mixing it up a little. Personally prefer talking too ... FB/text sucks, but feel it's investing "a little too much" into someone you barely know?