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PostPosted: Tue Apr 15, 2014 8:38 pm 
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To cut long story short, I met a girl on POF. Had sex etc, were seeing each other casually for a month or so..

We had sex again and the condom split. I told her after that she should take the morning after pill etc. She said she would think about it. She had a few vagina problems, some excessive bleeding that are kinda period related. She didn't trust English Doctor's so she..

...went back to France for a few weeks and I just assumed she would of taken care of it.

Anyway, she came back to my country and I wanted to talk her about the accident. I was cooking a meal and she was in a bitchy moo, so we got into an argument and I kicked her out.

Didn't contact her, I don't plan on seeing her again. I got myself tested recently and I been told I have been tested positive for chlamydia. (I suspect it was from her! as I am usually quite careful), so I decided to be mature and so I texted her that she should get herself checked out.

She then replied saying she is pregnant. ( !!! )

I turned into panic mode as you can imagine, I asked her that we should meet and go through a pregnancy test together so I can get confirmation and closure.

She is being stubborn and says she doesn't want to see me again. She declines any attempt of me finding out the truth.

My gut feeling

You would think as a grown up woman, she would of let me know at the time that when she found that she is pregnant.

My gut feeling is that after I mentioned the chlamydia, the pregnancy comment was her knee jerk response to winde me up and get some revenge. Every attempt of me trying to find out the truth. She will bat it away which makes me think she is full of shit.

But as you can imagine, there is a possibility I could be wrong. I am disturbed to the bone that it I don't think of something, I may have to deal with a baby on my hands.

other options:
- Call a lawyer , get legal action and get her to meet me and do a pregnancy test.
- Stalk her outside her place and keep an eye out for a big belly bump.
- Chlamydia may be a blessing in disguise since it doesn't help with pregnancy.
- Call her bluff , don't do anything and hope it pans out. (this happened to my bro once)

I am really struggling dealing with the news, I am not in best of moods (STD and a pregnancy!). advice is wanted. I am a big boy and I feel I have done what most people here would do in my situation. I am careful usually but mistakes do happen. But it is common girls bullshit like this since they can easily pretend that they are pregnant. What do you think?

Nightmare!

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PostPosted: Tue Apr 15, 2014 9:04 pm 
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First off relax... the std can be fixed as long as you get it treated, which I suggest you do. The pregnancy can just be a revenge and could just be a way to mess with your head. I have gone threw this situation many times with different girls ( not the STD part but the pregnancy scare). You need to realize that a women can only get pregnant for about 1-1 1/2 weeks out of the month and that usually hits the second week after their last period, which means its harder to get pregnant then most people believe. I would just wait it out because I would believe that she would of contacted you more then just once especially after telling her you have an STD. Now it is possible that she is and of course I would try to convince her to take a pregnancy test with you, but you cant legally force her. Also look up the STD I am more then positive that it reduces the chance of a women getting pregnant by up to 50 percent.

P.S. I hope this easies you mind a little and I am not trying to come off as a person who would take that stuff lightly, but I want you to realize most of it is fixable and if she doesn't want to fix it and she is pregnant then I would deny its your kid because you don't if it could be someone else's.


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PostPosted: Tue Apr 15, 2014 9:25 pm 
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First off relax... the std can be fixed as long as you get it treated, which I suggest you do. The pregnancy can just be a revenge and could just be a way to mess with your head. I have gone threw this situation many times with different girls ( not the STD part but the pregnancy scare). You need to realize that a women can only get pregnant for about 1-1 1/2 weeks out of the month and that usually hits the second week after their last period, which means its harder to get pregnant then most people believe. I would just wait it out because I would believe that she would of contacted you more then just once especially after telling her you have an STD. Now it is possible that she is and of course I would try to convince her to take a pregnancy test with you, but you cant legally force her. Also look up the STD I am more then positive that it reduces the chance of a women getting pregnant by up to 50 percent.

P.S. I hope this easies you mind a little and I am not trying to come off as a person who would take that stuff lightly, but I want you to realize most of it is fixable and if she doesn't want to fix it and she is pregnant then I would deny its your kid because you don't if it could be someone else's.

Welcome to the forum mate, really appreciate your words, great to have more people especially strangers on the same page as me. All my friend's think the same and I even told my Dad..

This is going to be a long 8 months though.

What a cunt she is.

Thanks again. I hope you're (we're) correct.

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To cut long story short, I met a girl on POF. Had sex etc, were seeing each other casually for a month or so..

We had sex again and the condom split. I told her after that she should take the morning after pill etc. She said she would think about it. She had a few vagina problems, some excessive bleeding that are kinda period related. She didn't trust English Doctor's so she..

...went back to France for a few weeks and I just assumed she would of taken care of it.

Anyway, she came back to my country and I wanted to talk her about the accident. I was cooking a meal and she was in a bitchy moo, so we got into an argument and I kicked her out.

Didn't contact her, I don't plan on seeing her again. I got myself tested recently and I been told I have been tested positive for chlamydia. (I suspect it was from her! as I am usually quite careful), so I decided to be mature and so I texted her that she should get herself checked out.

She then replied saying she is pregnant. ( !!! )

I turned into panic mode as you can imagine, I asked her that we should meet and go through a pregnancy test together so I can get confirmation and closure.

She is being stubborn and says she doesn't want to see me again. She declines any attempt of me finding out the truth.

My gut feeling

You would think as a grown up woman, she would of let me know at the time that when she found that she is pregnant.

My gut feeling is that after I mentioned the chlamydia, the pregnancy comment was her knee jerk response to winde me up and get some revenge. Every attempt of me trying to find out the truth. She will bat it away which makes me think she is full of shit.

But as you can imagine, there is a possibility I could be wrong. I am disturbed to the bone that it I don't think of something, I may have to deal with a baby on my hands.

other options:
- Call a lawyer , get legal action and get her to meet me and do a pregnancy test.
- Stalk her outside her place and keep an eye out for a big belly bump.
- Chlamydia may be a blessing in disguise since it doesn't help with pregnancy.
- Call her bluff , don't do anything and hope it pans out. (this happened to my bro once)

I am really struggling dealing with the news, I am not in best of moods (STD and a pregnancy!). advice is wanted. I am a big boy and I feel I have done what most people here would do in my situation. I am careful usually but mistakes do happen. But it is common girls bullshit like this since they can easily pretend that they are pregnant. What do you think?

Nightmare!

Thanks.

She may be messing with you, like the other poster said. But, if she is not cooperating the first step is to get back to at least a friendship level, then find out if she is indeed pregnant, then if is yours or convince her no to keep it. As of now i am leading to is bs and her fucking with you.

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 16, 2014 8:41 pm 
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Thanks mate! :)

I feel a lot better, but there is still a deep worry within my bones as you would expect. I would say that 80% that I am in the clear. But 20% is 20%..

I will try at the friendship thing. It will be tough. It pretty much ended with her wanting to kill me..

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I had a woman I was fucking regularly pull the whole pregnancy crap on me. 99% sure she made it up just to get me to go back to her but there'll always be doubt no matter what a doctor or friend says about the situation and we all know women: Once they commit to a lie they see it through to the bitter end. Difference is this chick told me she was pregnant and getting an abortion but she acted really weird and strange and seemed to be pulling meetings to sort it out out of thin air. Had some friends in the medical field saying it was bullshit and there was no way she could be getting appointments so easily and being able to switch out with friends and what not, that the whole thing was very strange and just wouldn't fly in this country. Anyway, either she was never pregnant or she got the abortion -- Which I had no input on. I'm still 99% sure she was fucking with my head to keep me around.

Chances are the chick you were fucking was just being spiteful because you kicked her out and just wanted to get at you. If she's serious she's basically giving you a free pass by saying she doesn't want you around. If in 9 months she pops one out and she comes knocking on your door then get a test done to be 100% sure. Otherwise there's not much you can do. Don't drive yourself up the wall with this, just move on and try not to think about it because, ultimately, there's fuck all you can do in regards to this. You can't make her get an abortion, you can't make her not seek you out if the child is born. You can't do squat man.

In situations like this it's really unfair to men. They should allow men to choose if they wish to support the child or not(And be tied to that decision from there on) and then let the woman decide if they want to keep it. Ultimately the life of the child depends on the mother, not the father. The father should be told at the time the woman finds out about her pregnancy and then asked if he wants to support the child or not(And be part of it's life). Sad reality is a lot of women would use that shit just to get money out of a guy or worse, keep him around forcibly. My rational behind it is if women can make the decision of taking a life or keeping it then a guy should be equally allowed decide if he wants to be part of a childs life or not and whether or not he would support both the child and the mother.

Also, wtf... Chick's vagina was bleeding(Unrelated to periods) and you were still fucking her?! Dude... Come on, obviously you must've known you would catch something from her.


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I had a woman I was fucking regularly pull the whole pregnancy crap on me. 99% sure she made it up just to get me to go back to her but there'll always be doubt no matter what a doctor or friend says about the situation and we all know women: Once they commit to a lie they see it through to the bitter end. Difference is this chick told me she was pregnant and getting an abortion but she acted really weird and strange and seemed to be pulling meetings to sort it out out of thin air. Had some friends in the medical field saying it was bullshit and there was no way she could be getting appointments so easily and being able to switch out with friends and what not, that the whole thing was very strange and just wouldn't fly in this country. Anyway, either she was never pregnant or she got the abortion -- Which I had no input on. I'm still 99% sure she was fucking with my head to keep me around.

Chances are the chick you were fucking was just being spiteful because you kicked her out and just wanted to get at you. If she's serious she's basically giving you a free pass by saying she doesn't want you around. If in 9 months she pops one out and she comes knocking on your door then get a test done to be 100% sure. Otherwise there's not much you can do. Don't drive yourself up the wall with this, just move on and try not to think about it because, ultimately, there's fuck all you can do in regards to this. You can't make her get an abortion, you can't make her not seek you out if the child is born. You can't do squat man.

In situations like this it's really unfair to men. They should allow men to choose if they wish to support the child or not(And be tied to that decision from there on) and then let the woman decide if they want to keep it. Ultimately the life of the child depends on the mother, not the father. The father should be told at the time the woman finds out about her pregnancy and then asked if he wants to support the child or not(And be part of it's life). Sad reality is a lot of women would use that shit just to get money out of a guy or worse, keep him around forcibly. My rational behind it is if women can make the decision of taking a life or keeping it then a guy should be equally allowed decide if he wants to be part of a childs life or not and whether or not he would support both the child and the mother.

Also, wtf... Chick's vagina was bleeding(Unrelated to periods) and you were still fucking her?! Dude... Come on, obviously you must've known you would catch something from her.

i appreciate the time you took to post this, yeah I guess will have to ride it out and wait and see. Will update this thread for sure and let you all know.

Regarding the blood comment, I said it was period related. (she was on a very long period pretty much )

As you probably know, you can't get pregnant on periods which makes me decrease my % assumption, along with the Chlamydia. (she wasn't bleeding heavy)

I was wearing a condom and I have fucked several other girls with condom period method like everybody else.. :) . Its just happened that the condom split on that session. STD's are the least of my worries right now. :)

Thanks again for the advice. More stories are welcome.

I just worry that she may send me a pic message of her belly bump one day, I hope to god that doesn't happen.

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 16, 2014 9:14 pm 
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She's bitter and fucking with you.

I've had a few girls do this to me.

I just start acting like I'm actually excited that she is pregnant and get really needy on her. I'll start picking out baby names and wedding rings and all types of gay shit. Scares her off REAL quick lol

Good luck man

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Ah, misread the period comment.

Not much you can do until the point when she knocks on your door -- if she does regardless of being pregnant or not.

Also, how could she get pregnant while on her period? Isn't that... like... extremely unlikely? She's most likely bullshitting you dude. I'd say it's a 90% chance it's her attempt at getting a dig at you.


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All of the other advice works, but another thing is to stalk her on facebook. If she is at all active on there it will be very easy to tell if she is pregnant or not. As soon as she starts showing she is forced to tell friends and family, they will start planning out baby showers etc.

If you're 5 months into the scare (after the actual sex) and she hasn't posted anything like ultrasounds or any congratulations etc.

If you really want to fuck with her, and I am never a fan of fucking with women, but this is a case where she deserves it if she is messing with you, I would google her parents, find some way to get her moms number and call her up and tell her that you want to take responsibility for your child blah blah. If she is pregnant, her mom will know where your coming from, if she isn't then her mom will freak and call her up and raise hell. If I was really pissed I'd even start getting on facebook and start making posts along the lines of what majikal said, baby names, how much in love you are etc. Make it to where she has to be truthful that she made this stuff up.


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She's bitter and fucking with you.

I've had a few girls do this to me.

I just start acting like I'm actually excited that she is pregnant and get really needy on her. I'll start picking out baby names and wedding rings and all types of gay shit. Scares her off REAL quick lol

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hahaha such a good idea.

Glad I made this thread, I can imagine that this is quite common in the community. I feel so much better that you think the same thing and not just telling me what a I want to hear

GamesSN - Yeah this is 1st time anything like this happened to me, my buddy next to me only just told me that you cant get pregnant whilst on a period, I guess my worries spawns from that...

that...Maybe it isn't period related and maybe her pussy is more vulnerable for pregnancy or something, (she can barely speak English so it is such a tough subject to ask her since its personal to her)

Fingers crossed.

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All of the other advice works, but another thing is to stalk her on facebook. If she is at all active on there it will be very easy to tell if she is pregnant or not. As soon as she starts showing she is forced to tell friends and family, they will start planning out baby showers etc.

If you're 5 months into the scare (after the actual sex) and she hasn't posted anything like ultrasounds or any congratulations etc.

If you really want to fuck with her, and I am never a fan of fucking with women, but this is a case where she deserves it if she is messing with you, I would google her parents, find some way to get her moms number and call her up and tell her that you want to take responsibility for your child blah blah. If she is pregnant, her mom will know where your coming from, if she isn't then her mom will freak and call her up and raise hell. If I was really pissed I'd even start getting on facebook and start making posts along the lines of what majikal said, baby names, how much in love you are etc. Make it to where she has to be truthful that she made this stuff up.

That is a good idea, However, I never got her facebook in the 1st place, and something tells me that she wouldn't accept my friend request...

I never got her surname actually so would be hard to find her profile if she has one.

I have some pics of us both that she may of uploaded to her facebook, so may try the google image search and find her FB that way.

Then perhaps make a fake profile of some hunk and make her accept my friend's request then try your advice.

Thanks guys.

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Found her facebook. That was easy.

Its a bit private so I need to think of a smart way to become her "friend".


The biatch

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All of the other advice works, but another thing is to stalk her on facebook. If she is at all active on there it will be very easy to tell if she is pregnant or not. As soon as she starts showing she is forced to tell friends and family, they will start planning out baby showers etc.

If you're 5 months into the scare (after the actual sex) and she hasn't posted anything like ultrasounds or any congratulations etc.

If you really want to fuck with her, and I am never a fan of fucking with women, but this is a case where she deserves it if she is messing with you, I would google her parents, find some way to get her moms number and call her up and tell her that you want to take responsibility for your child blah blah. If she is pregnant, her mom will know where your coming from, if she isn't then her mom will freak and call her up and raise hell. If I was really pissed I'd even start getting on facebook and start making posts along the lines of what majikal said, baby names, how much in love you are etc. Make it to where she has to be truthful that she made this stuff up.

That is a good idea, However, I never got her facebook in the 1st place, and something tells me that she wouldn't accept my friend request...

I never got her surname actually so would be hard to find her profile if she has one.

I have some pics of us both that she may of uploaded to her facebook, so may try the google image search and find her FB that way.

Then perhaps make a fake profile of some hunk and make her accept my friend's request then try your advice.

Thanks guys.
If you have mutual friends even you could just ask. I'd never advocate stalking a chick in PUA, but this is a whole nother scenario. It pisses me off that some women think they can hold this kind of stuff over guys heads.


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All of the other advice works, but another thing is to stalk her on facebook. If she is at all active on there it will be very easy to tell if she is pregnant or not. As soon as she starts showing she is forced to tell friends and family, they will start planning out baby showers etc.

If you're 5 months into the scare (after the actual sex) and she hasn't posted anything like ultrasounds or any congratulations etc.

If you really want to fuck with her, and I am never a fan of fucking with women, but this is a case where she deserves it if she is messing with you, I would google her parents, find some way to get her moms number and call her up and tell her that you want to take responsibility for your child blah blah. If she is pregnant, her mom will know where your coming from, if she isn't then her mom will freak and call her up and raise hell. If I was really pissed I'd even start getting on facebook and start making posts along the lines of what majikal said, baby names, how much in love you are etc. Make it to where she has to be truthful that she made this stuff up.

That is a good idea, However, I never got her facebook in the 1st place, and something tells me that she wouldn't accept my friend request...

I never got her surname actually so would be hard to find her profile if she has one.

I have some pics of us both that she may of uploaded to her facebook, so may try the google image search and find her FB that way.

Then perhaps make a fake profile of some hunk and make her accept my friend's request then try your advice.

Thanks guys.
If you have mutual friends even you could just ask. I'd never advocate stalking a chick in PUA, but this is a whole nother scenario. It pisses me off that some women think they can hold this kind of stuff over guys heads.
Cheers, Nah no mutual friend, she was a lonely POF chick from a different country. But I agree with you.

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