I'm looking for some advice or tips on creating attraction on first dates . I have no problem getting the date but I find that I am not creating attraction . My last 2 dates said they thought i was lovely and wanted to set me up with friends of theirs that they thought would be perfect for me . And on 2 other dates that went well when it came to following up to arrange a day 2 they sort of faded out. I can chat to my dates no problem and it seems to go well but I feel that i need to add some spark to get rid of the 'nice guy' image that I seem to be giving off .

What would you guys suggest ? I seem to chat to them like I do with my female friends and need to inject something more into it to make them see me as a potential partner

nothing to do with attraction. she's already attracted enough to turn up on the date. you need escalation on the dates. no escalation means friend zoned.

Don't just talk about topics you would talk with a guy about. Try to make the conversation interesting and dare to say things you are unsure if you should say or not. One thing I've been using that I think works really well is the question game. I might have gotten this from The Game or maybe I read about it online somewhere. Tell her you're going to play a game and the rules are:

- you ask each other questions in turn.
- you cannot ask her the same question she asked you, and vice-versa.
- you are both allowed to pass if you don't want to answer (removes pressure).

Then it's just a question of escalating the types of questions you ask. Start with something innocent, maybe even something you would ask a guy... but nothing boring! For example, "if you could be anywhere in the world now, where would you be?" Escalate to more personal questions, like "when was the last time you went on a date?" If you really feel the chemistry and you dare to do it, you can ask if she wants to kiss you. If she says no, tell her "I didn't say you could." If she says maybe, tell her "let's find out" and kiss her. If she says yes, kiss her (duh). This part I definitely got from The Game.

IMPORTANT THING YOU HAVE TO DO WHILE PLAYING THE GAME or on a date in general: kino! Start kino from the beginning because if you wait too long, it will get awkward.

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Thanks guys . Think that's where I was going wrong . The conversations were very sort of friendly , non threatening and non interesting lol. A bit like how you wold talk to a stranger at your table at a wedding . Plenty of chat but not moving it in any set direction. Will try the above mentioned next date .

If anyone would like to add anything then any hints , tips or advice of any sort is welcome .