Hey so this girl I like came over we chilled if was cool, I didn't have an oppurtunity to kino, sitting on bed next to each other and I just felt like I couldn't. I walked her home told her I liked her she said 'she likes things as they are' and then I text her when she had gone and i turned complete afc..

I feel like I could have something really special with this girl.. But think I've ruined things. How do I, if possible fix things..


I really wanna get better with girls, but want this one in particular. Any methods atall?

Thanks again in advance.

dont rely on words only actions

You gotta touch her softly every time you are near her. High fives, hugs, caresses, etc... Just keep on touching her!
That may be the point that you have to fix. First have sex with her and get to know her better.

How can I do this now she has pretty much said she doesn't like me..

Should I not talk to her for a while or what?

Doing my head in!

Your actions don't match what you told her. You said you like her... But you sure didn't show it. I bet this was one awkward visit...

Every moment with a female is an opportunity to kino. Just touch her, playful punches, squeezes, the list is endless.
You're putting the pussy on the pedestal. This is why you can't kino because you're worried about every little thing that you do in case it upsets her. Girls read this behavior and find it unattractive because you're worried about being yourself isn't going to be enough for her and she picks up on that.

There is NOTHING special about this girl. You brain mixed with hormones has created that illusion within your own head. She is the same as every other girl. When she DOES something FOR YOU that makes her different then the rest then you can put her on a tiny pedestal. She did something good for you = gets rewarded.
She's currently a lost cause due to your AFCness (would be helpful if you could provide some text content tho aka how bad into the AFC zone did you go)

From the moment you read this message. Go out and talk to girls. Ask them open ended questions (girls love talking) and practice kino (girls LOVE being touched) just practice your game as even your OP sounds desperate. Which she will definitely be picking up on.

My afc zoneness after was shocking. Like so bad!

It's really knocked my confidence as we were such good friends..


Where do I start to improve with girls?

I would say I'm quite fussy, but any girl I do like is immediately on a pedestal

Thanks again.

P.s. Should I not talk to this girl for a while?

You build your inner game, start to think and realize that getting a girlfriend/sex/fuck buddy/FwB whilst great isn't as good as other things in life. Go out and do those things, read, get a job, do something creative and that makes you interesting.

Improve yourself for YOU not anyone else.
Thats a big problem right there. The fact that you put them on it quickly and such. Don't do it, girls are equal to males (they fucking moan about not being so put them there) and you'll be able to see how much she struggles to be considered of importance in your life.
If you want to be friends with her then just message her something like "My recent attitude has shown me that I'm not ready for blahblahblah" then you can remain friends. You'll never fuck tho.

If you want to fuck her. Leave out of your life till you've

1) Improved your inner game.
2) Gone out and picked up.
3) Gotten Numbers.
4) Fucked 10 other women.

How do improve inner game?

I've got a part time job, I'm at Uni.. It's not like I have nothing going for me..

My first gf really fucked up my confidence with girls and now I have really high standards.. Like to get to know the person properly first and then I start to like them, when I haven't built attraction from the start..

Sorry to keep on, I just feel really crap and am committed to improving now!

there is far more to do at uni then just have a part time job. join a team and go out on socials with them. meet new people. being part of a team is going to build your confidence.... easy. plus it is going to keep your mind from obsessing over every thing a girl says and will make you look less needy.

as said before there is nothing special about this girl. if you have fucked up with this girl move on. learn from your mistakes and dont make them again.