I recently had an interaction with a woman that I have interest in, that I have not seen for 6 or so months. I had previously written her off, because I was under the impression that she was not interested, but that is a different story.

This girl is smart, attractive, smaller, and is of a healthy weight with just a little fat in the right places. If she has gained any weight it is minimal. Nobody in their right mind would call her fat.

Anyway we had a chance to talk in person for 30 or so minutes and I noticed she had made some comments about her weight that kind of threw me off. I am trying to figure out the psychology behind this. If it is due to insecurity, if she really thinks that she is going to get fat, was digging for compliments, trying to get me to show interest or what exactly was her motivation.

One comment was basically that she was getting fat due to her new job making it harder to get out and run / exercise like she would like or whatever.

Toward the end of we had a conversation about if she had to move away for an unlikely dream job and move back later in life. This is where she made a comment about how I would not recognize her because she would be fat and bald! This girl really is not fat and she has a head full of long hair...WTF

She may have even mentioned it again but those are the 2 times that I can recall for sure.


I am confused, so any opinions and feedback are appreciated...

Just...ask her to hang out sometime man...

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After she left I sent her a message via facebook. We are supposed to get together and bbq sometime "to be determined when"

lol this is pretty easy to read dude. It's simple. She's compliment fishing. What you want to do here is neg and then compliment leaving her a lil bit confused but can't be offended because you still complimented her.

Something like

"Yeah fucking hell, you're like a whale. What are you a size 5 or something?" <neg then compliment.

She will most likely either act offended or jokingly act offended thus

"I was being sarcastic, should worry about your sense of humour as your weight is perfectly fine" <neg then compliment.

This leaves her slightly confused and when the interaction ends she'll be thinking "That was different" = She's thinking about you = attraction.

Sidenote: Should have ended the interaction with "It's meant to be sunny on <insert day here> come round mine for a 1on1 bbq at 12" = instant yes or no.

Don't fear rejection, embrace it!

I did a little scan, and couldn't help but bite at this one. If the girl truly has no weight issues, she is just trying to see how much you like her. 'Would you like me even if I wasn't thin?' Only a confidently thin girl can say that, so I don't know about that girl. I don't know if that is a 'shit test' or what. I haven't taken the time to figure out what a 'shit test' is.

If she is just trying to figure out how much you like her, I would be very careful about insulting her. She is looking for something positive, and to throw something negative in her face would be the wrong move.

I agree, she's looking for validation but also testing your frame to see if you will jump through her hoop and start complimenting her like a beta.

I wouldn't go as far as to call her a whale as she obviously has some sort of issue and things could go down the pan really quick if you do.

Best just not react and ignore it.

You got this man. I have faith in you!

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