I am a woman dealing with a PUA; have questions



Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 24 guests
Post new topic Reply to topic   Board index » Get Into The Game: New Forum Members Start Here » General Questions




Author Message
PostPosted: Fri Apr 04, 2014 1:01 pm 
Offline
Dedicated Member

Joined: Tue Aug 14, 2012 2:42 pm
Posts: 518
My advice: Sort out your drug problem. Then think about guys


Top
   
PostPosted: Fri Apr 04, 2014 2:53 pm 
Offline
Dedicated Member
User avatar

Joined: Wed Feb 27, 2013 7:41 am
Posts: 671
Location: Dallas
Hm..

This is interesting. I would just try and ask him straight up!

_________________
Are you tired of not having a girlfriend?
...free report reveals how you
can get 1 date per week fast!

Click here to get your FREE report now!


Top
   
PostPosted: Fri Apr 04, 2014 3:16 pm 
Offline
PUA Forum Leader

Joined: Thu Nov 08, 2012 3:19 pm
Posts: 1472
Quote:
My advice: Sort out your drug problem. Then think about guys
Yeah, this.

To be honest he could be interested, really interested but it bugs him that you're back on the drugs so he's pulling back on you. Men and women are very similar especially in the dating scene. Pretty much all the advice given to guys in PUA could be given to women. The only real difference is the social norm for men to approach women instead of women approaching men. Everything else, all the "games" and stuff, work on both men and women.

OP, sort your drug problem out. Try not to blame others(Not saying you are or anything) and address the issue. You genuinely would be surprised at how many guys are totally turned off by women who do drugs, even smoking a bit of weed every now and then. I'm just saying -- you've given us pretty much zero info on this guy and the "games" he's playing -- he could be really into you but doesn't want to fall for a chick that's going to take herself down and him by being a drug addict.

Also, it could simply be that you're just being extremely paranoid... You did say you're back on the drugs and one well documented side-effect of drug use is paranoia. Keep that in mind...

Clean yourself up, try quit the drugs and you'll have a more positive outlook on life and all things relating to it(Including this guy). You might even start to see this guy be more forward and less afraid to pursue something with you the more he realises you're trying to better yourself and turn away from drugs.

Keep in mind this post is given with pretty much zero information on him or you save for "I'm back on drugs." and "I know he's a pick up artist and I know PUA(Even though you clearly don't)."

Good luck and feel free to ask questions but try give a bit more detail in what it is that's going on with him and you. No one's going to know who you are or who he is.


Top
   
PostPosted: Fri Apr 04, 2014 9:27 pm 
Offline
PUA Forum Leader

Joined: Tue Jun 30, 2009 3:58 am
Posts: 994
Quote:
I met this guy online. I have a drug problem. I knew he was a PUA because I knew about negging, and he negged me and then I was paying attention. He did many other PUA things.

It's a long story, but I just want him to drop the PUA stuff, but I feel like he won't.
One of the worst things you can do in relationships is guess how the other person is feeling/thinking. Ask him. Ask him if he's learning to be a PUA. If he is, it sounds like he's doing it wrong. Once you know, you can discuss how his behavior is making you feel.

To give an example of why you shouldn't guess another person's feelings, he might very well be thinking you like him more because of his actions.
Quote:
I started doing drugs again and I feel like he is just playing more games with me instead of caring about me doing drugs.
Would be nice to know what drugs you're doing. It sounds like you might be a little bothered by the drugs you're doing though, so try to stop. This guy shouldn't have any effect on your drug use. If you're saying the way he treats you is part of why you went back on drugs then kick him out of your life. You deserve better.
Quote:
It seems like whenever I get feeling good and strong, he says something to give me a kick in the shins.
If he's really undermining you and your confidence get rid of him. Or at least let him know what he's doing is wrong and pissing you off or hurting you. Again, even if he is trying PUA material on you it sounds like he's screwing it up somehow. A neg is NOT a flat out insult.


Top
   
PostPosted: Fri Apr 04, 2014 9:34 pm 
Offline
Post of the month winner!
User avatar

Joined: Wed Aug 27, 2008 5:53 am
Posts: 3102
Please do your negga stylee wannabe pick up artist potential boyfriend a favor and show him your posts on this forum. It might save his life.


Top
   
Display posts from previous:  Sort by  
Post new topic  Reply to topic  [ 20 posts ] 

All times are UTC


You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot post attachments in this forum

Search for:
Jump to:  

Can we be honest?

We want your email address. Let me send you the best seduction techniques ever devised... because they are really good.
close-link