So long story short, I've been going through a long breakup and decided an escort might help me move on. I met her yesterday, and obviously she's gorgeous... but she also turns out to be this cool nerdy chick with lots of similar interests.

We ended up spending three hours "frolicking" and talking, when I had only scheduled/paid for two hours... and at one point she mentioned looking me up if she were ever visiting my town, although she then kind of retracted it by saying she'd probably never be down here. (I live 2.5 hours away in a smaller, much less entertaining city.)

Now I said frolicking before because I have some psychological issues with sex, and we ended up not having actual sex. We basically just hung out naked and I went down on her a couple times, so not sure what she would be thinking on that end...

Anyway, I really wouldn't mind getting to know this girl a little better so I'm wondering what I can sensibly email her to hint at maybe getting together "off the clock" one of these days.

(I'm guessing a bunch of you are going to come in here and tell me how bad it is to go to an escort at all, and how much of a waste of time it is and all that. If that's what you're going to write, save yourself the time because I've already thought/read a lot of that stuff. Just looking for ideas here.)

Mate,

I do understand you. You have been through a long breakup and still you need time to get throug this. But be aware, these ladies are professional. They are trained to give you the feeling that she is your gf. Of course they are human too, they can feel empathy with you. But this is their job.

Of course they want to talk instead of doing the physical work. It is easy money, talk a little bit without spreading her legs. But this is not real. I am sorry to say this. Don't fall for this, it will cost you a fortune!

Yeah, she spread her legs several times... I just wasn't up to the task. She actually tried her best to get me off... I think she takes pride in, and actually enjoys, that part of her work.

I probably wouldn't even think I had a chance if she hadn't let us go an extra hour and mentioned looking me up.

Also "trained?" Pretty sure there's no escort school out there. ;P

training-on-the-job

A friend of mine did this same sort of thing, in fact, it was how I met him originally (a mutual friend recommended I talk him out of visiting escorts).

They would play with him emotionally and use him for things.

Don't get attached to her. I would say you MIGHT be able to game her if you keep yourself emotionally uninvested, but let's be honest here, you won't be able to do that, and she's going to start to see you as only a mark.

Do you really want her to respect you less and less as time goes on?

Didn't want to let it go too long, so emailed her Sunday night:
Haven't heard back so guessing she's not interested. Question though is could my email have been better?

Because you are not a friend or a potential bf, you are a client!

Again, she sees you as a mark.

She does not see you as a guy with romantic potential.

You are too into her, too invested.

the best thing you could have done and no guarantee it would have worked was a complimented insult.

You a really good at what you do, well done. I felt like I was on a real date and actually getting to no someone one. had it been real I probably would have tried to see you again off the clock

She's a hired sperm toilet/actress.

You paid her to be those things.

The 'above and beyond' time was calculated for a hefty tip/repeat clientele. Nothing more.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

i hate to crush your dreams, do you really think that she actually likes you...... or are you just her client!

think of this-- you payed for 2 hours of her time for whatever price so lets say $400 (and you didnt even jam it in her she got 'the attention')... now next time you get that special feeling you'll call her up again another $400 and again you may get the anxiety so again no sex! and again and again the cycle continues. then one morning you realise what have i wasted my time and money on... nothing!

how do you think they get their money..

its the same with strippers i know loads in and out of clubs, they know exactly the type of person you are what you like within 10 seconds of meeting you from your vibe dress sense and persona and unfortunately they know your insecurities.
why do you think strippers and escorts get return clients..... its basic gaming! its just theyre doing it to you

the bad part is most of them have boyfriends.

we arent saying this to be cruel, weve all been in a similar though process believe me i thought about banging an escort, being honest your not looking for an escort your looking for a girlfriend, if you were you would have let her in had sex then she just leave but you didnt you tried to be her friend and then you went down on her, its like your trying to 'woo' her

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life sucks and then you die! deal with it

Ok look, if we're going to start saying things like "again" then here's what I put in my very first post in this thread:

(I'm guessing a bunch of you are going to come in here and tell me how bad it is to go to an escort at all, and how much of a waste of time it is and all that. If that's what you're going to write, save yourself the time because I've already thought/read a lot of that stuff. Just looking for ideas here.)


Now great, you think I've got a snowballs chance in hell and whatever... so what?

What you're ACTUALLY doing is failing to provide any useful advice. It's criticism, not constructive criticism. Who the fuck cares if it doesn't work out with this girl... it would be far more useful if you pointed out there were X, Y and Z things wrong with my email and I should have said A, B or C.

Why? Because then I could apply that knowledge to other women in other situations.

So like I said in the beginning, if you're just here to naysay then save yourself the time.

Now, now big fella, on't go getting all butt hurt.

None of these guys give a wild shit, if you decided to get rid of the waxy build up, by tossing your wallet into a fiery ring of herpes, hey that's your thing. I get it. And I'm sure her buffing up your ego felt pretty good as well.

All they are compassionately trying to convey is;

This isn't Pretty Woman Your not Richard Gere and she's no fucking Julia Roberts That's all.

Can you game a 'Pro'? Sure.

1. Don't pay her....ever!

Can you see her again? Sure.

Pay her more money.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

To the OP, an escort will do and be anything you want as long as your paying!
I know many strippers/escorts as friends and even being their friend they admit that its all about money. I hook them up with more clients. I get freebies in return. I do favors for them, they paye back with favors from them. But they will never date a client. So OP sorry to break it to you, but she only stayed a while longer cuz you didnt f close her. She was just giving you your money's worth.