Date: Saturday 22nd March 2014

Allow Me To Introduce Myself

My name is Michelangelo87 and I am an AFC from Hampshire, England. My life is no different to any other male. I have some great friends, great family, and quite an active person. I share a two bedroom flat and have a comfortable income as a team leader for an Insurance firm. However, when it comes to having confidence with the female species I have zilch. I wasn’t always short of confidence; in fact a few years ago I had all the confidence in the world. However past relationship experiences have dented that and here I am now a shy male who struggles to hold a conversation (and eye contact) with females. The last few years haven’t been the easiest for a whole list of reasons but I won’t bore you with the details because as far as I’m concerned I am putting the past behind and focusing on the future. But what exactly does the future hold? Well whatever I want if my put the time and effort in. I am a firm believer in the saying “You make your own luck” and that is exactly what I plan to do.

So Why Am I Here?
Many peoples main goal is to be able to pick up women at the drop of a hat, and whilst that is something I would love to be able to do, that’s not the only reason I have decided to enter the world of Pick Up. I have joined this community to not only be able to attract women, but to become a better person and improve all aspects of my life. As I start my journey from AFC to hopefully PUA I have sat down and drafted a list of goals and changes I would like to make in my life. I believe if I start making small changes they will result in bigger results for me.

Below is the list of goals and changes that I want to be able achieve along my journey to becoming a PUA

Social & Lifestyle
- Create more time for family members.
- Get to know everyone I meet in social circles.
- Amend old relationships and reconnect with distant friends
- Read the local listings each week to find out what’s going on in the surrounding areas and experience new things.

Health, Fitness & Personal Hygiene:
- Run two or three times a week with a circuit of push ups/ pull ups as well as a punch bag session.
- Making sure I get my 2litres of water every day to keep my body hydrated.
- Cut down on junk food and takeaways as well as cutting down on my portion sizes.
- Extend my knowledge of healthy recipes and aim to cook at least one new healthy meal a week.
- Do a daily/nightly routine of brushing my teeth, rinse with mouthwash, cleaning my face with water, cleaning my face with baby wipe and moisturise.
- Make sure I have three meals a day (I currently have one big meal after work and always skip breakfast)

Career
- To become more confident on the telephone and create a better flow of conversation.
- Research objections and techniques
- Take on more responsibility to find my strengths

Pick Up
- To overcome my fear of approaching women and being able to hold an interesting conversation with them. (As well as holding eye contact)
- Have a better posture for myself
- - Communicate confidently and efficiently
- To up my social value and become someone who people want to get to know.
- Don’t be afraid to fail, if I do then to treat it as a learning curve.
- Write field reports on my sarges so I discuss and critique with others.

Summary
As far as I am concerned my journey to becoming a PUA as well as better person starts this very second and I will be blogging my progression, questions etc and hope you will join me along the way for support, to critique or just for something to read. And who knows maybe I could expire someone to get up and make a change? Some of you will probably laugh at me, some of you may respect what I am trying to do for myself, as long as I progress then this blog will help keep me on track and I can look back at my progression as well.

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My Blog: michelangelo87-s-blog-vt177131.html

Date: Sunday 23rd of March 2014

The Game, Styles 30 Day Challenge, Mystery Method, etc.

Although my journey is only just beginning, my introduction to the PUA world happened a couple of months ago. I know there are books upon books in which everyone has their own opinions on who is the best PUA and which methods they prefer to use. The first book I read (which is probably the same for a majority of people on here) was Neil Strauss’ ‘The Game’. One of my best friends told me about the book five years ago but at that time I had no interest. It came to light again a few months back when me and my manager were having a one on one review at work and he mentioned he had read this book called ‘The Game’ which helped him gain more confidence. I read the book and after I finished it I knew it was something I wanted to get involved with. I knew from that moment I needed to start learning all I can to help me, so I read through the book again but this time I started taking notes and taking in as much information that I could. A few days after I did some more researching online and came across Neil Strauss’ ‘Annihilation Method’ which I sat down and watched a couple of times over and wrote down as much as information from that as well. The information I have been given from Neil Strauss I feel is enough for me start at a basic level. I’m not saying he is the best PUA out there, but I have learnt enough from him to give me the basic knowledge in order to perhaps attract a female and continue a conversation with her. I have been meaning to get involved in Erik Von Markovik’s Mystery Method. Although, I have watched VH1’s ‘Pick Up Artist’ online and jotted down a few notes from the series to add to my notes. So apart from Style and Mystery, what other books/videos could you guys recommend for me?

Social Value and Expanding My Social Circle

These days the strongest social circle is through social media (Facebook/Twitter etc) so last night I took the time to go through my profiles and delete any negative posts, got rid of any bad photos of myself and added a list of people that I know in my area to expand my social circle and will attempt to build stronger friendships with these people. Don’t worry they aren’t just random people I’m adding they are people that I know either through family or friends and occasionally say hello to in the street, or when down the local pub. I intend on using social media as one outlet to improve my social value.
Although I am looking to build new friendships/relationships with people, I am also looking to rebuild and reconnect old friendships. I have a few friends who I hold dear to my heart that I rarely see anymore and these are the people I want to reconnect with as well as a few people who I want to build bridges with. Life is too short and I hate the thought of looking back in twenty years time and wondering why I never took the time or spoke to these people for no reason at all or sheer laziness.
Another thing I believe we take for granted in life is family. Ever since I moved out just over a year ago I haven’t spent that much time visiting my family. I only moved to the next town (a five minute bus journey) so I don’t really have any excuses why I haven’t. Don’t get me wrong I always visit my mum at her work, I’ve always been close with my mum. But I’d like to build a stronger relationship with my Dad. The only thing we really have in common is football, but I think football is the common ground for most males. I should really put more effort in with my two brothers and sister as well, and that’s what I plan on doing.

Approach Anxiety

I have a built a folder, which over the last few weeks has been filling up with routines/openers and theories, pretty much everything I need, but all this knowledge will go to waste if it is not put into action. How do you know what works for you if it is not tested right? So my first mission is to overcome my approach anxiety. I know this is the first step most AFC’s make, but for me it is a pretty big step to overcome. There have been many females I have seen over the months that I would love to just say hello too, but I just over think every situation and I know that it’s something I have to stop. Deep down I know that once I make that first approach, I will become more confident as each approach passes, but its making that first initial approach which is the problem. Perhaps you guys wouldn’t mind sharing your first approach experience with me, or sharing how you over come your AA?

Sarging

I get paid this week and I am on late shifts, which are 3pm-9pm, and normally on Thursdays or Fridays we head out into town after work for a few drinks. I plan on doing my first approach this week so I’m going to find an opener I feel comfortable with and field test it, in hope it will be my first step to overcoming my fear of talking to women. I’m not going to bother attempting anything else just yet. I won’t to concentrate on approaching and opening so I can get comfortable with my opener, once I am I can then add on the next routine. I feel this is the best way for me to learn to just add on a little as each week goes by instead of trying to do it all at once and not exactly know what to do or say or when and where to say it. Did you guys have any methods on your own that you did yourself to ease your way into the land of seduction?

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My Blog: michelangelo87-s-blog-vt177131.html

Date: Thursday 27th March 2014

Making A Change
If you read my first entry, you will remember me saying that I sat down and made a list of goals and changes I wanted to make to help become a more confident and happier person. As of Monday I started putting these into effect and despite it only being Thursday I can feel a difference in myself already. It’s the smallest changes that will create the biggest results.
I’m on the late shifts this week which means I don’t start work until 14:45pm. Instead of lazing around during the day I have made sure I have woken up early, ate breakfast and gone for a run, completed a circuit of sit ups as well as a 20 minute punch bag session. I recently purchased a pedometer as well to keep count of the steps I have taken. I believe I read somewhere that for every 10,000 steps you take that burns 440 calories so I’m racking up the steps to help lose some weight.
Along with exercising to get into shape I also started my diet on Monday as well, I’ve been consuming no more than 1400 calories a day and have made sure I am getting my 2ltrs of water a day. I think it was important for me to start having three meals a day. Normally I would wake up, not eat until I got in from work and have one large meal and that was it. That hasn’t done my metabolism any favours. So my diet has consisted of Weetabix for breakfast, A small bowl of pasta (with chicken and peppers) for lunch and a bowl of soup in the evening.
Every morning I have decided to put some upbeat music on and it puts me in a good mood to start the day with. . I compiled a playlist last Sunday to listen too. It contains some classic 90’s music with tracks such as Corona – The Rhythm Of The night, Culture Beat – Mr Vain, The Shamen – Ebeneezer Goode and Livin Joy – Don’t Stop Movin. If you have any uplifting tracks or remember any classic 90’s dance tracks then give me a shout and I’ll add them to the list.

Pick-Up-Artist-Forum
I’ve been on here for just under a week now and I have enjoy reading the posts and have learned a few things so far by just searching through posts. Although I’ve haven’t interacted much I hope to get around to talking to other AFC’s as well PUA’s for their stories and advice. We’re all in this together right?

PAYDAY!!
It’s the 27th, which to me means its payday and I plan on being sociable over the weekend. I have quite a few things lined up with various groups of people so it’s going to be a good chance to starting putting myself out there. I’ve selected my openers, so I’m going to start fielding testing them and see what responses I get and learn how to handle situations. My focus this weekend is purely just to open sets and feel comfortable with it, and I’ll report what happened on Monday. Once I feel comfortable I will then move on to the next stage and go from there. So that’s me done until after the weekend when fingers crossed I should have some stories to tell.

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My Blog: michelangelo87-s-blog-vt177131.html

1. First ever approach I made after reading a little bit about PUA went horrible. Tried to stop a girl walking, asked her a question and she just looked at me funny as she kept walking. Looking back at it, I don't blame her, lol. I can only imagine how awful she figured the conversation would be if she stopped and talked to the guy that couldn't get his eyes off the ground, lol. Got lucky the next day though. Had a fairly cute girl make eye contact with me and smile. Went over and chatted her up, got a number and went out with her a few times. After that it gave me confidence that I do have something to offer and that women can be completely attracted to me if I present myself like a man. For me it wasn't a set of stairs where I gradually became more confident to approach. It was like a switch went off. After that I could approach any one-set I saw. Few weeks later approached a two set, went horrible, but kept at it til the switch flipped.

2. Dress up nice when you're going out to game. Don't over dress, but I always try to be on the line of being over dressed. Gives me a feeling of confidence. I'm better at attracting girls when I'm wearing something that I love, and right after I get my hair cut, not because I just look that much better, but because I feel better about myself, and that comes across to a girl.

Also, a great challenge to combine with the approach challenge is to try to creep the girl out by giving her too much eye contact. Not like, opening your eyes as wide as possible eye contact, just staring at her eyes, one after the other. You'll soon find out that it's not possible. I used to be so scared that I was creeping a girl out if I gave too much eye contact. Now it's like I am in a staring contest with a girl, and I will not look away until she does.

Good luck bro.