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The nonverbal sequence goes like this:
Situation 1:
Girl starts touching you --> You eyefuck girl --> Girl eyefucks you back --> You hold her hand --> Girl does not pull her hand away --> You touch her hair
Situation 2:
Girl gives you glances of interest --> You close the distance around 2 to 3 feet from the girl --> Girl does not step back to maintain her distance away from you --> You say your opener and eyefuck girl --> She eyefucks you back --> You open your palm and offer a handshake gesture --> She meets you halfway for a handshake --> You shake her hands --> You keep on eyefucking her --> She keeps on eyefucking you back and plays with her hair --> You brush her hair aside from her face --> She smiles and doesn't pull back --> You touch her hair some more and play with it.
I'm making a guess here why something like this happened to you a second time around despite being more self aware with your vibe and the nonverbal cues. My guess is you'll have to fix your grooming and fashion to fit right into your target demographics. You might think you're well groomed and fashionable enough but others around you might not think the same. Ask independent 3rd parties (clothing store sales clerks, gay hairdressers and so on) for their opinion on what looks great on you.
If you have yellow teeth, whiten them. If your nose hairs are sticking out, trim them. Before you load up your clothes on the washing machine, disinfect those with extra-strength Lysol. Use sulfur soap at least twice a week. Use loofah to exfoliate some of your facial skin. If your eyebrows are converging together, trim them at the joining point so your eyebrows look two instead of one.
You get the drift. Game can only work so much if you have handled the basics first.
Btw, if you have tried everything of those and you're still not getting any good results, then you'll have to set direct game aside and try indirect game instead. Mystery Method is one very good indirect game. Perhaps it is the most well publicized pick up method out there among very reputable media organizations like the New York Times, Huffington Post and so on.
Despite what other PUAs say, Mystery Method is well known in mainstream media organizations for a reason -- credibility. Again, if direct game is not working for you, try indirect game.
So we're clear, this second time happened when I wasn't doing
any pickup, of her, or anyone; my presence alone spooked her.
As for looks, I've recently had a haircut, where I trimmed my eyebrows, among other things.
Wouldn't say direct game has failed, Hellhound; haven't tried it, really. I'm thinking of trying it out on a hired gun at my gym, though; she's a new sales rep, has an office, and she's given good eye contact with me, and behaved quite friendly with me in our limited interaction, so the odds are fairly high for a positive response to direct game, I figure.
My plan is to see her alone in her office, walk in send a signal of direct sexual intent early on, and just focus on qualification and comfort from there. By the way, statement of intent is is part of establishing attraction, ain't it?
By the way, I opened a hired gun at college who has shown some IOIs my way in months past, though I've largely avoided her out of my own awkwardness.
I just opened her by bringing up that this was her last quarter (she volunteered that earlier, so I used it as my opener), did negative body language by talking over my shoulder, leaning back, and looking away from her from time to time, whilst showing some sexual intent via a hooded gaze, which indeed got her her to open up, and use her hands expansively.
She didn't do so for long, though. She soon recovered, and asked, as she was the receptionist on duty, what I was there for. Isaid no one, just wanted to talk with her, and then proceeded to leave, given we had done so, even if I wanted to prolong the conversation.
Likely didn't show enough energy, did I? More salient, I didn't show enough sexual intent, I suppose; she seemed friendly enough, but seems to have been puzzled to some degree by my intentions. Didn't kino, but that wasn't what I was trying to do, as per your advice.
Thoughts?
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