Hey all,
So here's the story. I invited a chick friend over to my place today to hang out and shit with the intention of laying her by the end of the night. We've cuddled before so there's at least some history. Obviously it didn't work out because I'm writing this post right now, but maybe you guys can shed some light...
For the past week, I've been hyping up this visit as smartly as I could. She's leaving for China soon so I made sure to play the 'you're gonna miss me' and 'how are you going to live without me' cards right and she seemed to take the bait. Included some winks and innuendos here and there to prepare the right frame for the visit (yea, I invested a lot of effort on her because I don't have much contact with bitches on a regular basis). Anyhow, she comes over, I compliment her dress (she was wearing a particularly nice getup - thought this might have been an IOI). The first order of business is to get lunch, so I lead the way and take her to a nice burger joint, I pay (i don't think it mattered if i payed or let her pay in this case, either way), walk around the mall a bit, and then head back to my place.
We're back at my apartment (I live in a 1BR alone), and decide it's time to make my moves. My room has a futon which functions as both my bed+guest seating with nowhere else for people to sit to force my hand at having her on the bed. I turn on my projector and roll down the screen, close the blinds and put on some show that we watch together sometimes. It has some sad scenes and I know she's gonna feel sad, so I wait for the right moment...
And this is where the problems start. The scene comes up and she starts sniffling a little. I pat her on the head and tell her how much of a cry baby she is. Still no IOI at this point... I go a little further and try to get my arm around her and bring her closer. Able to get my arm around, but she pulls up her knees and curls up a little. Definitely not an IOI, seems like she didnt have interest... was she avoiding it? Not sure, so I decided fuck it, I'll try to get her into a sexual mood. I massage her back a little, skin massage, make sure to stroke ear lobes etc to get her riled up. Didn't seem to be working... At some point I brought her closer to me, but still a blatant lack of IOIs... Eventually I get up for something and return, but fuck we're back to square one. Her back is against the wall and she's resisting any attempts to let my arm get around her. At that point, I'm just like fuck it and ask "Are you not interested in cuddling?" and she comes back with "ifajwpiofjaposdjf" It was some incomprehensible mumbling that signified she was not interested.
At this point I blow my top internally and just say fuck it I'm not dealing with this bitch. Basically what I would do to any random girl that wasn't being receptive, though this one is my 'friend' and drove 40mins to see me so I can't really kick her out. I end up just ignoring her for the next few hours and watching stuff on my computer because I didn't want to deal with her shit. She eventually drags me out to get some dessert and when we get back to my place (i made her drive this time) she said "I guess this is the last time we're ever going to see each other
" and I say "Yea, have fun" and walk away. During the latter half, she may have given me IOIs, but I was either too pissed to care or didn't want to deal with her confusing signals. Honestly, I was thinking of saying something like "Let's have fun or you can go home", but I haven't reached that level yet.
I know that I probably went wrong in many places, but please give me advice. She's going to China so I'm never seeing her again, but I want to learn how to make things like this go my way in the future. I'm new to to the game and suck with dealing with women in general...
-sortman
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