Sooo this link s back to one of my prev. posts that I was wondering is 10 days were too long to forget me.

Story Looks like something like this. I called her on the phone while she was away, and tried to tease her... but I guess I over did it (mistake), she turned cold and said "sorry i gotta go".

After few trials and few days of trying to call her again just to ask "whats up and to apologize delicately" - no response.

Eventually we saw each other last night in a social circle and she just agrees me as like the others. Seems like there is no attraction or she is playing superior or something.

I tried teasing - not working, jokes - not working, hand holding - not working.
Then I said well OK... if you don't want its fine for me (i didn't said that verbally but by body language while walking her home). And at the end I just said buy good night and kept my honor.

(i had been before in such situation and i know kiss assign doesn't work).

I'm thinking that this whole thing is some sort of test to see if I will crack, or change my behavior or if I will start to kiss ass. And I think she doesn't even do it consciously. So yeah.. I'm on square 1 again with her. We'r neither friends nor enemies.

But I got this insight that if she is playing hard to get - just freeze out like nothing happened.

I don't need a particular advice, just wanted to share this with you. Keeping your power even if she is playing that she lost attraction to you or if she is really lost attraction is more important than trying to "please" her by tring to trade your power for her affection again.

You can share some comments....

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I guess she thinks you are an asshole and/or trying too hard. When I have done such mistakes, I've noticed that it helps to take a step back and cool everything down a bit, not showing as much interest as before as to compensate for my mistake. There usually is no need to freeze out completely, just loose interest in her a bit. This "resets" the game plan, but takes some time (maybe days, weeks or even months). It is certainly no efficient game, but it works.

Yes its exactly what i'm doing (i've put her in "pause" for now), although that way nothing happens. She doesn't call I don't call neither. But in that way i'm keeping my chances perhaps for sometime in the future.

Now I'll be more aware what I speak and I will think twice before I say something.

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