hey guys.. just need a bit of advice please

theres this girl I've known since last year (met at uni) but she had a boyfriend when we met.. become really good friends, just get on really well and have great chemistry. well she broke up with him a while ago.. was seeing someone on the rebound i think, but that seems to have fizzled out now.. anyway we were on a night out a couple of weeks ago and we kissed afterwards.. i then sent her flowers for valentines day and things died down badly.. didn't talk for a couple of days. but now we are back on talking and texting terms and we (with a group of friends) went on a night out and things were great between us.

i want to escalate things with this girl but don't want to ruin our friendship if she rejects me.. (hate rejection.. bad exp with an ex gf) do i just invite her round to chill over text or what?

sorry to sound like such an afc..

thanks in advance

I'm guessing you are inexperienced?

The uncomfortable truth is that a guy has to walk a fine line of being sexually assertive without being too aggressive while at the same time not being too passive either. But it's your job!

Successful sexual escalation is gradual. Starting with kissing, then making out. You go for small incremental escalation, but it really doesn't necessarily take that many moves to necessarily go from kissing fully clothed to fingering her pussy and so on.

The key is to see how she responds to your advances. If she pulls away like she you just touched her with a poker, then you need to slow it down. On the other hand, if she starts responding well, you know that you can probably try to escalate again, possibly going for more each time.

You won't ruin the friendship by making these advances. UNLESS you persist after she has blown you out.

If she just slows things down or puts up some minor resistance, that's natural, you go back to whatever you were doing, that she was cool with and enjoying, and then you try again 5 minutes later.

How do you start?

Try this move:

"You look tense/tired." And start a non threatening neck/shoulder massage. You will instantly know if she is receptive to YOUR touch.

Cary on.

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thanks for the advice..

i wouldn't say I'm inexperienced.. I've had loads of one night stands, f closes, etc.. but i really am falling for this girl and its doing my head in!

i haven't even got the balls or the know how to ask her to just hang out or do something without it sounding too 'date like'.

its doing my head in

The problem is when you start thinking she's any different then any of the other girls you've banged.

SHE IS NOT ANY DIFFERENT!

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So how do I escalate the situation and relationship we have?

Sorry to keep on, it's just doing my head in!

Story of my life... I'm in the same situation and want to know where this thread is going.

majik-s-guide-to-kino-escalation-vt163160.html

Kudos to Majik.

Pay close atention to the rule that states that touching girls is like breaking a horse. If she reacts well, you go one step further. If she does not, go a step back to when she was confortable.

Its always the same old thing... "I been friends with this girl and we got closer"
Well getting out of the friendzone is possible and if she really likes you your chances are quite good.

If you been friends with her she definitely should be fine with you touching her. I can only agree with the last post! Go and read the "Kino escalation" guide its fucking gold! Start touching her as described in this guide and see how she reacts. If she is fine with all that she will be fine with you kissing her. Now here is the thing...
MOST guys (just like you) think " I will lose her as a friends when i tell her what i really want".

There are only 2 options: Option 1: She is attracted to you as well and agrees to date you and to take the "friendship" to the next level OR Option 2: She gives you the "Lets just be friends speech". And thats (at least how i see it!) most guys screw up...

Usually what happens is guys say or think "Okay lets stay friends, that way i dont have to fear to lose her and maybe she will change her mind later on" Well guess what....She WONT! You´re acting weak! She will keep you in friendzone and keep dating and keep fucking other dudes because you basically agreed with that by staying "just friends" and i been in this situation, and trust me this IS NOT A GOOD feeling. Its fucking terrible! You dont want that.

What i personally would do (and you should do the same) is tell her what you want, leave the door open for her by saying "Im sorry but i cant be just friends with you, give me a call when you change your mind" and then you WALK AND NEVER LOOK BACK! You dont contact her you dont call her you dont text her!
Now guess what...If you mean anything to her and her attraction level for you is at least lets say 50%....she WILL contact you again because she misses you. Once she does you just arrange a DATE (Dont mess around by shit chatting with her!!) and go from there...

This is the right thing to do if you are REALLY into a girl. If you dont really care and have 4 other chicks in line its a different thing of course...

Pay close attention to the last two posters.

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