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I started loving who I was more and stopped giving a fuck.
You can fake it til you make it, but the best game is inner game. If you know you're fucking awesome, other people will see that.
Also, I learned how to hear the word "no" and not let that ruin my night.
Instead of having a shield that gets battered up, I do the I'm rubber you're glue thing in my head. You can't hurt me, you can only miss the opportunity to have shared my company.
I like this a lot.
What most guys don't understand is that rejection is often a sign of incompatibility. Not EVERY girl is going to vibe with you. You're not going to vibe with every girl. The biggest myth in the PUA world is that if you get good at the right tactics, you can seduce ANY girl, anywhere. That's not a realistic or healthy fantasy. Think about the neediness for female approval that drives that fantasy.
For me, my biggest progress was getting good at PUA, sleeping with most of the girls I wanted, and figuring out I was still insecure after all that. I discovered that on a very deep level, I obsessively craved female attention and validation, and that the foundations of my self-esteem were based around my sexual identity. Not healthy lol
After this realization, I went on an intentional 1.5 year dry spell and focused exclusively on bettering my life. I started investing in myself WAY more, and working on self-development. I turned my attention to business ventures, bettering my financial situation, studying philosophy and economics, and becoming more in tune with my emotions.
Doing this helped me become more confident than I had ever been before. I hadn't been laid in over a year, yet I felt incredibly free and comfortable in my own skin.
Since my self-imposed dry spell ended, I haven't been getting with as many girls as I used to (and I'm perfectly happy with that). But the women I do date now are of a much higher quality. The next step is trying to work through issues of emotional intimacy and create the most genuine and honest connections with women (and people in general) as possible.
I don't have much time on this planet, so while I'm here, I want to be the REAL me. No more pretending to be someone I'm not.
#Realtalk.