Sometimes I get "What do you want"?

I think to myself: You shouldn't tell her that you want to fuck her cause that creates resistance. You should show her what you want by being sexual but not by verbalizing it. On the flipside, books never mention the phrase "what do you want?".

Some podcasts mentions it as "you were not sexual enough", which rises the question what a woman expects me to say if she's not receptive to a sexual state.

To eliminate this I said some times "I want to have sex with you" without being asked from the get-go, so she couldn't come up with that question. That scared some of them away.

To summarize: you cannot say "Do you want to have sex?" cause that "repells"(does it really or is that just acting on her part) her. If you don't say that you want to have sex with her, she asks, what you want. If you are in sexual state and she asks anyway, you could be seduced to saying "I won't tell you cause you can't handle it". Which in turn makes her come up with an excuse to leave. I really wonder how people can have sex if all of that is true.

So if she asks: "What do you want?", how do you reply?

"Don't get any ideas, missy."