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PostPosted: Sun Feb 23, 2014 7:30 am 
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So, I went out with a cardiovascular surgeon tonight (holy fuck!), and I was able to control my "Oh holy fuck"ness for most of the night, until the end.

I tried to kiss her at one point during the night, and she deftly rejected it.

I tried again after walking her to her car, she said "I just met you" and invited me to meet her Saturday.

She seemed tempted.

I got a little nervous, and tried a few times, which is how I do usually. I mentioned at one point that it's basically "a rule of being a guy". She seemed a little awkwarded out.

I think she will probably still go out on Saturday, as she seemed to really like me, and we stayed out really late - but should I do anything in the meantime to recover?


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 23, 2014 8:59 am 
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The date is already settled on Saturday. Leave it at this and see what happens. Meanwhile, game other girls.

Don't apologize for trying to kiss her, it's a natural thing.


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 23, 2014 6:35 pm 
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I'd never apologize for trying to kiss her, that's what I'm supposed to do. If I were going to apologize for anything (which I'm not) it'd be that I didn't successfully seduce her.


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 23, 2014 6:36 pm 
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She was also Asian, and for some reason Asian girls seem incredibly difficult to seduce.


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 23, 2014 6:38 pm 
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"It's a rule as a guy." was a bad move. You shouldn't make excuses for trying to kiss her. She's into you if she wants another date, she's just not giving it up so easily. You did establish that you're not interested in being friends and she still wanted to move things forward on another date, otherwise you would have just got the "I'm not interested in you." or some other flat out rejection.

She hasn't rejected you, she's basically just said "Not right now." The only bad thing was giving her an excuse for making a move as if it was the wrong thing to do -- It wasn't.


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 23, 2014 8:10 pm 
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I know. I got nervous. I don't usually get nervous, but she's gorgeous and freaking rich (or soon to be) to boot.

My game prior to that was super solid. I always expect a kiss at base minimum and I guess she is just playing a little bit more difficult.

Should I text her anything funny in the next few days? I figure a day or two of not texting her should be enough to erase any awkwardness at the end and just leave her remembering how she had a fun time.


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 23, 2014 8:42 pm 
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Crap, she wants to go on a date the same day as my cousin's wedding. Shiiiiit.


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 23, 2014 8:43 pm 
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Man, we all get nervous sometimes. You're lucky though, you didn't fuck up a lot, just said something c/f that could be easily dismissed and had the balls to go in twice on the one date. Kudos for that!

Dunno about text game. I used to just shoot the shit before PU and that worked well but that was mainly for relationship stuff. When I had success in text game I had the mentality of not caring too much about the chick so i'd keep everything to a minimum and only arrange to meet up. One time I didn't talk to a chick for two weeks because I deemed her to be boring. After two weeks either she messaged me or I randomly messaged her for whatever reason. Ended up arranging a meeting then fucking her on the second date.

What I did in that situation was have plans to meet a friend but told her I could meet her and her friends for an hour before then have to leave. Played her well, gave her initial interest and kept her interest peeked, teased her a little, applied kino then withdrew it completely, paying her friends attention, laughing and building up rapport with them. They loved me, begged me to stay for the night and the chick I was meeting up with started getting jealous and upset, talking to them behind my back asking about me. Second date: Fucked her.

The lesson I learned is to not give a damn about messaging or taking who text who into account unless she's passive about messages herself in which case be passive too and escalate on dates. Then again, in PU, i've had a lot of lost interest by doing that. It's all down to the specific situation, how receptive she is of you and how well you get along.


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Crap, she wants to go on a date the same day as my cousin's wedding. Shiiiiit.
"I have a wedding to go to that day. Let's meet up the day before/few days before(Whichever works best)"


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PostPosted: Sun Feb 23, 2014 10:09 pm 
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Crap, she wants to go on a date the same day as my cousin's wedding. Shiiiiit.
"I have a wedding to go to that day. Let's meet up the day before/few days before(Whichever works best)"
The problem with that is that she's a heart surgeon and her schedule is pretty packed. Like, she was even technically on call (i.e. might have been called to save a life) while on our date. So I'm not sure she has any other free time.

I'm trying to figure out if I can manage both, but we'll see.

As nervous as I was, my game was pretty tight. I made a running joke about how I was going to abandon her (I had to go to the bathroom repeatedly for some reason), and one of the times I even picked up my coat, and walked away.

She texted me, "I'm going to eat your burger!" and I responded with, "Who is this? I think you have the wrong number."

Plus a girl I had gone on a date with Thursday was apparently downstairs in the bar we were in and (unknowingly that I was right above her head) asked me to come out. I told the girl I was on the date with and we escaped.

Then I talked the karaoke dj at the place we went to to let us get on stage, even though it was the end of the night (The words (out of her earshot), "This girl is a heart surgeon and I'd really like to impress her" are pretty effective at getting the dj to bump you up in the queue).

So it was a great night, I'm just super nervous (and I know, I know, treat her like any other girl). And I've far outclassed all of my male friends with dating at this point, even the one who was super, super into pickup for a while. This is, I suppose, a good place for me to vent my nervousness, haha.

It's just hard to think that three years ago I was chasing after a girl who used people (and was proud of it), wasn't very attractive, had no job and no license and now I'm dating beautiful heart surgeons.

Like, what???

I mean, I put almost 2-3 years into getting better with women, but I'm just shocked at the results, I guess. Even when I know it works and I do really well generally.


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