Hey fellas, I'm 21 years old and have been picking up for 2 years. I have no trouble going to the club every week and taking a girl home. I have had in my head that I don't want to get attached to any girls at this stage because I plan to move for my career and don't want to get tied down.

So last night I met a girl on the dance floor and everything was right. We hit it off so well had alot of fun and I made alot of guys jealous when I laid one on her. We were very close on the couch and I told her "lets go". She was never more sure but her friend saw us trying to leave and she started crying, one of their friends got hit by a car so I offered to join them at the hospital but their ride only had two seats. So I gave her a kiss and let them go. She rang me all night and kept me up to date, luckily this girl only suffered broken bones and bruising. Nothing that couldnt be fixed.

Anyway, I usually dont have a problem letting one go.. It happens. This girl though I had to call. I told her I would take her out somewhere next weekend as I have to work away this week. I said I'll ring you later in the week and we will sort something out.

How the heck do I take a girl on a date? Should I just take her to a bar? I am good at bars and clubs but I have never really taken a girl to dinner or anything like that. I usually wouldn't stress this much. I really like this girl though. I know it probably sounds stupid. You often take a girl home from the club but you cant take one on a date? I understand but its just something that I havent done.

Thanks.

I have the exact same problem.

I always game girls at night (in bars, clubs, etc...) and I don't like day game that much. However, overtime, I figured that bars are the best places for dates. Not the ones with loud music though (this is only for the first few hours).

Forget dinners. Actually, remove it from your dictionary because first-date at a restaurant is LITERALLY casual these days that most girls are bored from the idea of it. Let's not mention that too much food gets you sleepy. In addition, there's no sexual tension or whatsoever going on. I mean have you ever seen someone escalating in a restaurant and making out with a girl? Yes, but BARELY.

I personally start my first date in a bar with good but not too loud music. Order a drink or two and try to let her talk most of the time until you have a decent idea of the girl and have built a good comfort base out of the conversation. You can then either close her there OR move to a place with really loud music to get more sexual tension (because you don't have to do any talking there since the music is loud, so it's all boils down to action). If you f-closed her at this stage, then perfect. If not, you can do a short coffee date then movies night at her/your place and f-close her at this stage.

Note that this is my from my PERSONAL experience, but I feel that it works out for anyone.

Hope this helped