I just found myself in this kind of situation. I dug my own grave and to make matters worse, it's with an unusually sensitive girl. So when she countered my playful dickishness with a shit-test that she carved out of my OWN FRAME, my initial thought was, "I'm fucked..." Then I remembered the first step is to not react and stay cool.
Quote:
Her: I left a pen in my laundry and it exploded
Me: *SMH* Ya see? This is why we can't have nice things.
Her:
Me: There there, sweet thing. That's part of your charm. Now pick it up.
(inside reference to her smile.)
Her:
My charm? the fact that we really CANT have anything nice?
Me: Well we have a bed. it's nice AND I'm perfectly okay with you jumping in the sheets with me and messing it all up.
Her: Lol
M'kay. So basically what I did here was deflect both her premise and my own by reframing my original comment in such a way as to both spike sexual tension and to discredit the original premise (that we cannot have nice things.) This allowed her to reverse-rationalize (plausible deniability) on one level, and also served as something of a pattern interrupt because the focus was shifted toward sex—without negating her source of butt-hurt.
If you can lead her subconscious toward something other than what she's bitching about, you win every time.
CHAT