when I approach, the conversation goes downhill very quickly. I cannot freaking escalate. why?
I can't completely describe what goes on in my mind, but one of the things that I am thinking about is: "what if she is not into me and she is nice to everybody? maybe she is just a social person?"

my conversations are not boring. I would say they are interesting, and even challenging. interesting, but not sexually charged. I am afraid of expressing my desire for the girl because I dont know how.

There have been many times when I talked to a girl, and then just said "bye" without getting her number. hours later, I realize "damn, I should have asked for her number" but I just dont know how to ask. I can't tell if she is interested in me or if she is this nice to everybody because she is just a social person.

In summary, I can't escalate from being this interesting conversationalist to someone who is sexually interested in her.

oh yeah, another thing that goes on in my mind: "what if she is not single? what if she is married and finds it creepy if I ask for her number?"

what can be done about this?

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The trick is to not care. Who cares if she's nice to everyone, you'll be the guy she's nice to who stands out because he went for the goal. You escalate when other guys don't.

Regarding the boyfriend and such. Women aren't going to start yelling and screaming at you if they have a boyfriend and you try it on. It's a compliment to them if you do and they'll respect that.

If she's not happy with her boyfriend she'll get off with you/do something.

If she's happy she'll just say

You: Goes for k-close.

Her: Oh...sorry I have a boyfriend.

You: No doubt...well he's a lucky guy.

Then you can get her number to introduce you to her friends or something like that. Seriously the main points of PUA pulling is to just simply not give a shit. Respond to women, don't react.

Confidence.

You need more confidence and just force yourself to get used to assuming she's into you unless she is clearly not interested in having you around.

For now you should just force yourself to get their number. Every time you open a set and meet a girl you like who seems interested or friendly with you you have to finish a conversation with "You're interesting but I have to go now. Give me your number and we'll keep in touch." Simple, just an offer of friendship then step it up from there when you get used to getting women's numbers.

I have three tips for you.

The first one is: Be playful. And that's probably all there is to say about that.

The second one is about kino (physical touch) and IOIs. Try to make it a natural thing to touch her on her upper arm when you want her attention. It is a friendly thing to do and most people respond positively to this. It is actually a sales trick that salesmen can use on their customers. If you are in a club you should avoid sitting down for too long and try to get moving. Try to move her around in the club. Take her hand and lead her to another place. You can even decide for her where you want her to stand, in which case you can grab her shoulders and just move her. If she is compliant she will follow. As a next step you can put your arm on her back (for a short while) if she gets close and has something to say. None of these touches are sexual, they are just friendly. If she starts touching you in the same way you can be assured that she at least LIKES you.

The third tip is: Just ask. There is nothing wrong to tell her that you want to see her again. It is really simple and there is no reason to make things more complicated than they are. Just tell her something like "I like you, you are fun. Do you want to meet up again soon?".

Since you can already hold a decent, fun, conversation with women and you have the guts to approach, when you're out sarging, clear your mind of any unimportant things. Just think about a wet, pulsating pussy. Nothing else.

Focus.

W-E-T P-U-S-S-Y

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Do baby steps till progressively you can fully escalate... Start with silence, shut the fuck up, whoever is talking is qualifying... So start by getting comfortable with silence.

Then get comfortable with seductive eye contact, this is escalation.

Then get comfortable when shaking her hand looking her in the eye and holding the hand longer.

Then get comfortable getting into her physical space...

Then get comfortable touching and on and on and on....

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This ^^^

ok, I agree that the more you talk, the more you are setting yourself up for failure. But what if the girl is quiet? Like you tell her "You look cute and I wanted to meet you" and the girl says "thanks" but then it's quiet as fuck?

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