you just have to be fully congruent with what you are saying and truly believe it, you are probably getting blank stares because from their point of view, your statement is completely incongruent and they don't play sports at all so it seems weird to them, so in a way yes that is sort of a test, because if you are not congruent with what you are saying then the person you are talking with, male or female sort of gets that, this person is being weird and full of shit feeling and it doesn't feel right or help build rapport when someone seems untrustworthy

and how do you attack her frame?

you don't have to, just be certain of yourself rather then looking to her for direction and being uncertain of how to please her, be certain of what would please you and try to be considerate of her feelings and if what would please you also adds a benefit for her

The op has a reag defeatist attitude.

I had a similar discussion in another thread and he is the perfect example of what you do not want to be. Just check out his other threads.

I thought he was young and just being naive , but he has just said he is 36 which is alarming.

'Can't teach an old dog new tricks I guess.'

Your opener is shit and weird. So you're gonna get shit responses get reactions that you are a weirdo.

Your attitude is your problem, not your opener. A therapist is what you need. Not rsd inner game products

Hope you change your life dude.

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Whoever DigitalSpy_spy is ... fuck off you loser. I never wrote the above and I'm not lonely (have been with my girl for 5 years) so quit writing your crap pretending to be me. Asshole.

Confidence shouldn't come from others approval, because when they stop approving your behaviour you will start acting like a fucking needy insecure creature.

The only person who can give you unlimited approval is yourself. Remember, the feelings you have is because of the automatic thoughts you have. If you keep thinking that you are a fucking little weird creepy guy, that will never get laid or a girlfriend and die alone, guess what, you will feel so and you will behave so. But when you think the whole day "I'm a motherfucking badass, i'm so fucking intelligent and attractive, you are all lucky to know me, you are all even not worth my time" guess what, you will feel this way an behave this way. This is how therapy works and what they teach at psychology classes.

First set up your inner game and your posture. Time by time, the females in your social circle will notice it and start to give you some attention, BUT don't fucking relie on their approval, because you will transform back into your creepy fucking weird state.

If you need some examples of alpha guys who don't ever fucking look for approval, look at vin diesel in the fast and the furious, look at jason statham movies, and at the guy from iron man. Those guys are fucking alphas, and even tough they are acting, you can learn from their behaviour.

Remember, you are doing selfimprovement, you are superior to ALL the people who don't improve at all and stay the same their whole fucking life

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Professional Badass.

She played sports, there were 5 city-level Clubs in the area, she had Adidas pants and top, and had 10kg more clean muscle than on normal girl.

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Sooner than she thinks I'm at her door, from a world she's chosen to ignore.

Not defending the troll or anything, but in another thread you said you've been with your girlfriend for 10 years. Now you say it's 5 years?

Nobody is judging you. I couldn't care less how long you've been with your girl or even whether you have a girl or not. But I don't like lying. Stop lying dude, it's not cool.

Just don't care about Digital_Spy, guys... All he does is bashing on everyone he pleases. I've seen it in too many threads. Calling everyone weirdos and creeps, and that they need to be locked up in an asylum. He's just a bad joke with too much time at his hands.

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Why are you even called Digital Spy anyway? Is it some sort of reference to spying on your girlfriend?