Hey guys,

I'm a pretty weird situation and I really need to do something about it, because, somehow, I just can't stand the tension. So, it goes like this...

I've 'met' this girl on facebook, after I broke up with my girlfriend, last year, in April, I think. We had some random chats, but nothing serious. During the summer, we kept talking, but never met, since we were in different town. The good part was that we're going to college in the same city, so I knew what I had to do.

So we met in a club, everything went perfect and we hooked up. And man she was awesome. Anyway, I'll skip this part. After two months, her exams started and she became kinda crazy with it, as they were very hard. She became a bit distant and one night, after we went for a walk, we talked about our relationship and where everything was going.

She was very focused on school,very scared of exams and she told me that she doesn't want to be in a relationship where she can't give 100% (I can't remember the words). Somehow, I didn't wanted to end it, since I really liked her and told her that I understand the situation and maybe we can work it somehow, even though I didn't wanted to see her only in weekends, due to her huge amount of studying. In vain, I might say, so we decided it's better to end it. I can't say that I was very affected, since we were together for just two months.

Since then, we talked a few times, but nothing special. The funny part was that she was the one talking the most, keeping me up to date with all here activities and stuff, even though I wasn't asking. And it was the same, every time we've spoken. I felt like she needed a person to talk to. And she was doing it, like when we were together, except this time I wasn't that interested as I used to be.

Last week, she sent me a few messages at night, asking for some help with her new cellphone, as she was kinda stuck with some functions. She said that she could drop by my place, so it was settled. My place was kinda messy at the moment, so I asked her to come a bit later. It was settled. The bad part is that she figured out all by herself what she wanted to find out, so no more visits )

This was happening on Friday and since then, we kept talking, and, again, she's talking to me like she used to when we were together. I try to avoid chatting to much, as I want to keep out of the friend zone, but honestly, I'm stuck. Oh, and if this matters, she keeps liking the stuff I post on Facebook (ok, it might be because of my awesome music taste )

Yeah, I'd love to get back together with her, as we had a great chemistry between us, I know her friends and so on. Now, I'll let her focus on her finals, for the next two weeks, but after they're don, I'm definitely asking her out. Still, I'm afraid of her reaction. Or better said, I'm afraid she'll say no.

So, after you know all the background, here's where you guys do the part: how do I put this? How should I ask her out without showing my real intentions? I want to go for a coffee or something and somehow rekindle that flame (Wow, I'm really using this line) So? Any advice/tips ?

Btw, sorry for the eventual grammar mistakes, English is not my first language.

Thanks

So, no advice? I don't wanna be annoying, but I really need some tips...

Spin plates dude. Focus your attention on other chicks.
She will notice. She will return.

Then play it like you have options and you didn't just quit breathing because she acknowledged your rising value. Treat her like the goth girl who got her seat assigned next to yours. Then let the games begin...

Already starting doing this, a week after we broke up. And things went surprisingly well, better than expected

I asked her yesterday to hang out, but she was studying and wanted to finish what she started. She said that we could go out the next days. I don't know if we will, but I'll give it a shot. If she refuses again, that's it. I'm moving on..I have other options too

Still, could you guys give me some tips on how to ask her out again without sounding desperate? Thanks.

I wouldn't ask her out again until she starts getting the idea.
The fact you keep asking her and she keeps postponing does two things:

1. Lowers her perception of your value. Thus, you're not worth her time unless extremely convenient.
2. Makes you seem like you have no other prospects. Stop asking her out.

If you quit asking her she'll either wonder why you don't like her anymore (Oh gosh! Another girl!)
or she'll never think about you and you're now a better man having gotten rid of that weight.

And if she does text you. SHORT. ONE. WORD. ANSWERS. Unless it's a good question. Like: "Can i lick you balls tonight?" Or "Hey, wanna hangout?" And don't give her anymore than 3-4 messages a day. Your objective is to be aloof and kind of an asshole because you could care less if she gives you attention or not.

Ignorance is bliss. I got the idea that she still has to study and totally ignored her. And guess what? For the last days, she kept contacting me, for the silliest reasons, sending me pictures, telling me what she's up to and so on. Also, I've tried to be as short as possible with my answers.

Of course, I want to ask her out again, but here comes that part which I hate: I'm afraid that she will say no again. And yeah, I hate this...I still have a fear of rejection. Any advice on how to do this in order to not seem desperate?

Aaaannd ignorance is bliss pt 2: She told me today that she had a problem with her cellphone. Being a tech savyy guy, I knew exactly how to fix it and told her to take a pause from studying, as I'll give her an hour from my time and try to make her phone work ok.

She said that she'll drop by my place. I haven't seen her since december, so I wasn't expecting anything special to happen. A little kino here and there, but nothing much. At a moment, we were sitting close to each other on the couch and I was leaning towards her so I can kiss her. I dunno if she knew my intentions, but she moved in the opposite side. I should've insisted a bit more, but meh, it was worth trying.

I really liked her reaction when she saw a pic a friend of mine sent me, in which she was kissing another girl.

Anyway, I was all chill and kept my c&f style. Maybe I should've tried to get more from this, but overall, it went ok.

She owes me now, so I have..I mean, she has a reason to take me out for a drink The odds are a bit in my favor now, I guess, so once again, any advice? How should I approach things now?