Met this girl last summer at work but she friendzoned me. Back then I was kind of an AFC and out of shape. She likes guys with big muscles. Since then I have lost a few pounds and gained a few muscle.

Our work place is kinda cold and I usually leave my coat on or use a sweather, so my new phisiques goes unoticed. Should I wear slimmer and thinner clothes so she checks it out from now or wait a few weeks until the weather gets warmer and I am bigger and more ripped going for the wow factor?

You really think muscles matter? I don't think it does, really. Just start a conversation with her and escalate when you can. I think you'll need the muscles in bed, not before.

"Friendzoned"... Getting her to talk is not a problem, getting her to shut up is. And how can I escalate before creating attraction?!?

Think about it this way: There is a girl who is into the same stuff you are. Music, movies, videogames, whatever. But she is an ugly fat bitch. Would you let her escalate and bang her? No. But if she spent 6 months munching salads, dyed her hair, got some breast implants and a facelift, THEN you would bang her.

Now the question is, do I let her watch the transformation (wich I can see already) or do I keep it hidden and show it all at once, kinda like the butterfly coming out of the cocoon? BTW, the first guy to make a gay joke with the butterfly comparison gets a kick in the nuts

You can create attraction in many ways, not only by showing your body. You can make her see that you have a strong character, you are sure of yourself and of what you are doing. I would play it this way:
1) You get into her confort zone
2) Start talking (THIS creates confort and first attraction)
3) You start escalating verbally and physically (at this point she will be touching you too and so she will feel your muscles that you really want to show to her)
4) You kiss her
5) You fuck her (yes, NOW you can show the majesty of your body!!! )--> the end

Maybe don't do this in your office (if you do: respect!) but take her out somewhere.


For the timing it depends if you feel confortable with your body now or you prefer to wait 6 more months and ask here out then (if she hasn't got a bf during that time). I think it's a bit risky to wait, but maybe it's just because too many douchebags have taken a girl away from me just because i waited too long.

I hope you good luck whatever you decide to do