So this girl is in the same social group as me. she is 2 years younger and she is very shy and awkward girl with most people. Everyone knows I am trying to hit on her but never get a successful conversation. She actually said it to her friend that I make her uncomfortable. In social gathering, she will avoid eye contact with me and reply minimally. She kinda dislike me at the moment, but i think i still have hope because after all she never really knows who i am since we never have any real conversation yet and we will be in same small group for long time. she is very shy that when i use game stuffs on her they turn out to be too aggressive because she also never has a bf. I am actually a very chill guy and pretty experienced with gaming. I know that I like her but im not desperate for her. I just want to actually get her to know me and prove her wrong because our circle group is small to get rid of awkwardness.

So my question is how should I approach this situation? I am thinking of letting my close friends winging me by telling her good stuff about me. and will just make no effort to talk to her for month, then i will try to talk to her back and see her response then and work from there. what do u think? In movie, girl usually start out hating the guy, so im sure there is way to approach this and not just to back off like PUA rule that to just game with girl who is into you. sometimes u wanna work for smth too haha. Please no harsh comment Thank you.

Additional info: the worst part here is my reputation is not that good at the moment. ppl in social group think im a playboy because they r nerdy and virgins

Find another girl.

You make her uncomfortable and she's telling people that.

Bit of a red flag?

First of all, i would say that this is a really good reputation! Especially if your friends are virgins. You are with your sexual experience somewhat like the tribal leader i guess.

Maybe you should strengthen your position as group leader and make all others really like you. Maybe she is just a little afraid because you are the grown up and experienced guy and she is the lamb...


I would try to really be kind to her when you are seperated now and then. Try small compliments but very unusual ones (never her lookds or something that makes her think "I bet he is saying this all the time to the naughty girls that have sex")

Usually i would suggest some cocky stuff in front of your group like "you all know how much she and I love each other, you feel the tension in the air right? Damn i love her passioned and expressive behavior" But i think if she is that shy and innocent it is too hard stuff for her and would make her sad....

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I have read a lot of how do I get her back, how do I make things right etc threads and the fact is, its much easier to just find another. It's hard to turn a bad situation around so just stay away from her for awhile and then try to restart or just find another woman.

yes im definitely looking for other girls, but at the same time if i have any chance i will still game. ive lost lots of value. people are talking behind my back how im desperate and always thinking of girls. so its not all about getting her its just want to regain my value in the social group too. the sad part is all my older close friends graduated and im stuck with younger ppl haha.

Ever tried to change social group or add a new one? Maybe you should stay with someone that is more similar to you and that has as much experience as you do in this field. If you are surrounded by virgins it's kinda obvious that they will look at you like "he did what i haven't done yet" and they will try to make you look worse than them. So, either you change group or you make sure that you are the boss and everyone respects you. Ofc, this is just a suggestion and it is what i would do.

P.S.: changing group of friends doesn't mean you don't have to continue trying to sleep with her. I would continue, and i hope the best for you whatever you decide to do!

Cheers
Julian