I"m 27 years old and one thing I've learned from self improvement these last 7 months is that I'm a huge pushover. I have trouble saying "no" and I'm scared to lead. I avoid confrontations etc.

I've been like this my whole life and I know it's going to take time to change, but I need to start now.

Can somebody give me suggestions on how to improve on this?

Start reading on some NLP. Check out the appropriate forum and chin up, knowing your weak points and wanting to change constitute the most important part of a future successful life.

First train your body and the mind will follow.

If you haven't taken up any martial arts yet, choose a style that specializes in active offense (Muay Thai, Kyokushin karate or BJJ) rather than passive defense (Wing Chun or Taichi).

It's not really the word "NO" but how you say it (even without saying a word) that changes you from pushover to someone more assertive.

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Learn to love yourself more than anyone else in a slightly narcissistic (but not ego-based) way.

My self-love borders on homosexuality. I would suck my own cock if my ribs weren't in the way. You don't have to go that far but you get the idea.

My own farts smell incredible.

Some good suggestions here.

Start seeing yourself as important, see yourself as a man, a man who has boundaries, sense the fire in your belly, listen to masculine music.

Practice make perfect.

Getting yourself in shape via weightlifting or martial arts is ideal.

Now i'm still trying to overcome my problems and improve myself with women but here is what helps me.

I know that wherever i got i will always be the biggest, strongest, sharpest man within the area, that is what gives me my personal self worth.

Now perhaps you might not be the biggest or strongest dude you know BUT it is important to take a craft that you value and understand that is what makes you an ideal man.

You will always be a master at your own craft, and therefore the person that may look down on you will need you before he/she will need you.

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PUA Maxim: Leave the woman better than you found her.

Someone told me this advice and I feel I should pass it on.

Have a picture of your younger self (maybe 1-3 years old) on your phone, and every time you look at it, ask yourself have you done that little kid proud? Would you want that kid in the photo to grow up and accept shit from people? You are the grown up version of that kid. Do him proud!

Pretend to act like a douche. Live that persona for a week and you'll know how good it will feel. Then from that transition over to picturing yourself as a man of power. Whatever you do, everyone should drop what theyre doing and respect the fuck out of it.

Taking a shit? let them admire that.

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I strongly agree with this. Live a month like a douche, and see the sudden change in people's behaviour towards you. Especially women because you don't take garbage from anybody and it is very attractive. Of course it is not a complete ahole, but knowing where your boundaries are and make it clear to yourself. It is better to live a nomadic life than one of supplication.

Work on other aspects of your life outside of pick up as well. Like taking on martial arts classes so you gain the confident booster. Start hitting the gym and gain some muscle mass. Start a business and realize how cutthroat people does business and it will help you change your perspective.

I had a friend who lived an incredibly sheltered life, and he is so nice and is always being pushed over despite driving a $200,000 car. It is just so incongruent with his lifestyle that his provider card acts against him in pick up. He would get amoged, fail shit tests because he had never worked in a single day of his life. And this mentality actually affects his style of pick up a lot.

So do remember to improve on other aspects of your life first, read books like way of the superior man.

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