Been picking up following the methods explored on this forum and in literature for a few years now.

Have had large amounts of success (being a career nightclub DJ helps), although i seem to have found myself in this predicament.

Last couple girlfriends i have sorta not treated the best, due to them generally filling an emotional space, and removing the loneliness, yet never really being attracted or interested in the personality, they never inspired me or got me excited about anything.

Yet new girl i have been dating for a few weeks has really changed things up. Suddenly all the mundane bullshit that has come with last relationships is cherished in this one, whether its texting asking question you know the answer too just to get responses.

The problem with this, is that every gaming girls book, and human physcology guide, says that being mean to girls is sort of a necessity to them hanging around. I mean at the end of the day, the whole treat em mean keep em keen persona thing works, and this has proven with previous relationships, as at the end of the relationship as i ignore them more and more, they get more and more keen. Because humans are designed to want a chase. Its exciting and it keeps thing interesting. Same way you can feed a snake dead food. (We all know this)

Yet when i be "myself" things don't tend to work, because the negging stops or really chills out, and i like telling the girl how they make me feel etc…..

So here in lies my predicament, run the risk of it failing where it has many previous times before, or commit to forever never being urself, but getting what you ultimately want.

What is your experience down the track with "turning the game off" after you've done it for so long….

you can read or listen to David Deida The way of the superior man. I think that will help you and give you some insights you need.

Game is not something you do, it is who you are. Again, read the book mentioned above.

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I think you are confusing "being mean" with "being dominant."

Lots of guys do this, because they have been brainwashed into being a NICE GUY all the time, and they cant let go of those old strategies and ideas, no matter how many times they lead to failure.

There's a sweet spot where you can do good-hearted teasing and it will work well, and it won't feel mean. You might say something mean by accident once in a while, but that happens to anyone whether they are into PU or not.

Step one for you is to take a good hard look at yourself and figure out if you have Nice Guy Syndrome.

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