So here's the deal. There's a shy younger girl I work with who I'm dying to get with and F-close. I set up a get together with her last night and we went to my place and drank. She seemed shy and reserved but I was pretty aggressive with her and eventually we were making out. She wouldn't let me in her pants but she was really getting into the kissing by moaning and asking me to suck on her neck and stuff. Again it was hard to judge her interest level because she really didn't open up until I took the initiative to make a move on her.

Anyways today we had to work together and she had hickies on her neck which was a little awkward. She's super reserved and doesn't talk to anyone at work so I'm not concerned that she will tell people she was with me. Just before I was leaving for the day, a very good looking coworker of mine was standing in the vicinity of my girl from last night and called out to me, "So when are we hanging out?" Literally she was standing three feet away from my hickied up girl. I walked over to her and tried to be smooth by saying "hmm idk. i'm a busy man." And she's like "omg you always ditch me though! Can't we just hang out soon" I told her we could probably work something out.

How do you think this affected the other girl? On one hand it probably raised my value to have a good looking girl trying to get my attention. On the other hand, I don't want this girl to get the impression that I hook up with every girl at work and she'll just be another one of my victims, ya know? Do you think this was a boon for me or a pitfall? She hasn't texted me afterwards so I'm wondering what my next move should be.

Personally, I would love that. That's an excellent DHV and shows pre-selection. Next time I was with the shy girl, I would do one of the following:

1) look at my phone like I just got a text. Then say, "geez, --Loud girl-- is really persistent. She keeps asking me to hang out all the time. She's good looking and all, but she's just not my type."

From here you'll also be able to see how the shy girl reacts to other women. I would treat her response as a test. I personally won't go for a relationship with a girl that's super jealous and snoopy.

2) Just bring up a situation involving the loud girl at work next time you hang out with shy girl. You can make a similar comment and gauge her reaction likewise.

Thanks for the response. That's a good idea. I'm more concerned about being able to actually hang out with the shy girl again. I was hoping for some sort of text from her because in my experience, 9 times out of 10 a girl will text you within 24 hours if she had a good time. And conversely if she never wants to see you again, she won't. Granted, there are exceptions but this is just what I tend to notice.

I will try to set up another get together later in the week and see what I can accomplish.

Attention from other girls is always a good thing.

From my personal experience, I think you should leave the shy girl and go with the good looking one, unless you want to have a relationship with her and bad sex. I may be prejudice, but this is what I think about shy and timid girls:

1. They are just as timid and insecure in bed, turning the lights off so that you can't see their body, insisting to have sex under the blanket, only in the missionary position, never going down on you etc... The list goes on.

2. Girls like that, as hard-to-get as she seems to be, usually have an extremely weird idea on how a relationship works, as if the man is the one who should give, give, give and not get anything in return. If your girl fits my preconception, she won't let you into her pants until you have "proven your love" by walking through hell and high water.

Good looking girls on the other hand are usually much more confident and experienced in this area, and know that a relationship is about give and take.