Hi guys.
Few weeks ago a girl started sitting next to me on media classes.
As I am an AFC, I didn't really know how to respond, so I started talking to her in the same way as I talk to my friends.

Lately, I have started to notice some really strong IOI's that she sends.
She smiles a lot when I talk to her. She constantly asks if I missed her(making me nervous actually).
She rests her head on my shoulder and keeps saying how nice it is.

We are going on a school trip in about few weeks. The very first time she heard it, she was telling me to go on a trip and sit with her on the coach. Now she constantly repeats questions about the trip. She asks if I already signed the papers few times a day.

Now, there is my problem. Of course I could initiate some escalation, I could ask her out, but I am not quite sure about her intentions. The more I think about it, the more I cannot believe that she actually does that. I think that she might be doing that to make fun of me.

Today she told me that the school trip will be like a date to us.
I don't get it. Please could someone experienced give me advice on how to check if she does that for real.

You're a shy guy. She sees what she likes and knows what kind of person you are. She's heavily trying to hit on you.

Either that or she just sees you as her GBF but I doubt it.

Just let it flow into place, don't bother about gaming her. Hang out with her outside of college, act like it's a date and kiss her if she keeps hitting on you. Even if it's awkward just go for it.

You know what you want, she seems to know what she wants. Don't confuse yourself just go for it. Worst that can happen is you get the LJBF talk which is nothing. She was hitting on you, you just reacted so you don't have to feel ashamed if you get turned down given she was making all the advances.

Thanks for your reply GamesSN. I know that I should let it flow.
To be honest with you all, I cannot think straight when I talk to her now, after she started showing all of those IOI's.
The thing is that I was already been humiliated by a girl in a similar way (she acted similar and in the final she made fun out of me in front of many people).
You're right, I am shy, but only in front of her. Her best friend SHB sits near us on the lessons and I can easily talk to her about various stuff.
It is really weird because from one side, I want to get on with her, and on a second, I think logically and I am freaking scared that situation will happen again.

I would kiss her lips off if I only would know that she acts truely.

Don't place past worries on a new individual.

Move on from the past and embrace the present/future. Chances of it happening again are slim especially if you're in college. If someone's making fun of the fact that you liked them then they're incredibly immature and chances are they're going to remember it and regret it when they finally grow up. I'm not saying this to make you feel better, i'm saying this as a matter of fact.

Just out of curiosity, how did the other girl make fun of you? Did you make a move or not make a move and she showed interest in you then, after some time, started belittling you? If it's a case of her showing interest in you and you not reciprocating that interest she most likely got frustrated and handled the situation completely wrong. Her acting out was a way for her to try save face in the light of her obvious advances on you that went unnoticed. If you made a move and she rejected it then said some nasty stuff then she's just a bitch. It happens, even happens to Alpha, high social proof males. Don't let it get to you, dude.

Think of it this way: A girl is making a lot of effort to spend time with you, get to know you and hang out with you. If she didn't like you she would keep her distance. This is a fact.

Just go for it man. I honestly think for shy guys a lot of the stuff on these forums shouldn't be tried unless you really want to rewire yourself and become the kind of guy that goes for one night stands and wants to be sought after by every or most women on a night out. If you just want a relationship PU isn't exactly the way to go about it.

You're shy man. You're not ugly. Just shy, right? Why wouldn't she be into you? Her friend hanging out with you and talking to you about anything is a huge sign that you're doing something right, otherwise she would just brush you off and not be interested.

Well, the other girl I've mentioned was a serious bitch. She started texting me one night saying that she is attracted to me
(It was pretty hard for me to belive in it as I wasn't the most handsome guy in the world, well I still am not [I'm quite short - 5.7ft and I have some additional pounds that I would like to get rid of] , but I was just a stupid 15 year old).
Anyway, we were texting and I thought that we are geting along pretty well. We decided to meet one night to talk and spend some time with eachother. As we started some kino and kisses she just pushed me away and told me that all of it was a joke. The next day a lot of people were just looking at me, talking behind my back and all of that idiotic stuff. It turned out to be perfectly prepared joke.
After that I have just hated every woman I've met. I thought that each of them would be the same. That all of them will just make fun of me and leave.
Now I've met HER and I thought that I should change my way of thinking. That it is this moment in my life that might change my mentality. But hey, my stupid brain still remembers and blocks me from moving any steps forward.

You're saying that maybe I shouldn't be using stuff from this forum as my tools to get closer to this girl. Well I want to change something. It's not about her but me. I want the change. I think that many PUA's were just like me, they liked a girl and wanted to be with her. Then they saw that they can have many more girls, they've gained confidence. This is what I want to achieve.

Do you want THIS girl or do you want to be better with women in general?

What is the difference? I don't know how my life will look like in 2 years
or so. To get this girl I still need to get better in relations with women.

There's a big difference.

One is showing a woman you're worthwhile, something more than just a fling and the other is picking up random hoes in clubs and fucking them once off in most cases. Day Game is more about Day 2's and instant dates, you'll hardly ever fuck a chick in the same day if you're picking them up in Day Game unless you're extremely good at it.

Would you rather work towards something meaningful or have a string of sexual encounters and not go beyond a booty call or one night stand?

If you want this chick in any shape or form don't run typical game on her. Keep her interest there by being yourself -- she's interested in that it seems so don't deviate from it!! Otherwise canned material is good given the situation for interest purposes. Some of the games and routines are actually fun.

If you want a random string of sex -- nothing wrong with that -- then find the type of game that best works for you and follow it.

I think You're right. I would rather stay with her and create something strong and meaningful as You said.

Then just work on how not to be a pussy in a relationship.

Don't bother rewiring yourself because your calibration will be off until you're actually in the fixed mindset of a PUA and this chick will notice the difference and probably be scared off. Whatever it is you're doing now is keeping her interest.

Still, back to the issue: You should make a move in some shape or form. Ask her to hang out after college and see what she says and see how it goes. Look for the IOIs and kiss her if you feel right about it.

Actually, today I have made a move. I asked her to go with me to the cinema.
She wrote that she would love to, but she must go on a trip with her church friends.

I've said: "Ok, what about Sunday?"
She replied: "My friend will be studying with me on Sunday. Maybe next weekend."
M: "As you wish... Think about it. I'm going for a jog now. So... Take Care. "
S: "Oh jog wow! And okey you too, stay safe x"

From that moment I did not write to her. She did not write to me.
I am waiting to see her reaction on Monday in school.

Could you tell me guys, if I did it right or wrong? Maybe I should improve something on the next time.

I don't generally advise asking girls out over text. Especially when you have regular face-to-face contact. Wait until the next time you're talking to her in person, while she's in a good mood and then ask her to do something.

But I do want to congratulate you for making a move and making a specific date suggestion. That is exactly what you should do. As well as following up on "no" exactly once and then letting it go. That was all handled very well.

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Ok, sorted then. Just one small question guys.
Am I suppose to leave asking her out for couple of days to give her some time to think, or simply ask her about that on Monday?

News!
Today I have spoke to her friend, the same she supposed to be studying with today.
Her friend told me that she doesn't really plan to do anything today. That she will just chill on the sofa all day.
To be honest with you guys, I don't know what to think. Is that was just a shit test or she lied to me because she doesn't want to meet me.
Is it worth to invest my time into her?

When she strokes your cock; you're good.

Just escalate. Act. Don't think. Read the nonverbal signs and adapt your actions to how she's reacting. If it's all positive, gradually escalate towards the fuck close and then bang her pussy to oblivion.

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