I always come up with excuses to not say hi to a cute girl walking by, here are a few instances I ran by today at the mall. There were to girls talking to each other that walked by and i didn't want to interrupt. The girl wasn't making eye contact with me. The girl is with her little brother, the girl is with her mother. The girl looks bitchy. I seem to run into these situations all the time but should I just say hi regardless? I feel like it's really awkward but after all I'm trying to not care what other people think about me.

Try to make eye contact and if they make eye contact back, just say hi. There's nothing wrong with it. Would you say you have some social anxiety with that? I could see that being a reasoning.

Break though your approach anxiety by getting a job as a server. If you don't say hi.. you don't get money.

I agree, if there is no eye contact saying "hi" is just weird.

But if there is eye contact (especially prolonged eye contact) NOT saying hi is actually even weirder than doing so.

I have an exercise for you...

Instead of just concentrating on saying "hi" to all the beautiful girls, say hi to EVERYONE who have eye contact with you. I don't care what it looks like to you, it will help you break through this barrier.

Another thing you can do is to flirt with ALL women, not just the hot ones. Charm doesn't have an off bottom, so embrace your sexual nature and flirt! Hold seductive eye contact because you are a man! Talk seductively because you are a man! This doesn't mean that you want to take them to bed, it simply means that you are a sexual man who embraces his masculinity.

In my honest opinion, this is how you develop charm and charisma!

I got into it, so sorry for the long post! I hope you could use it Don't hesitate to contact me if there is anything you want to know more about!

- Andreas

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Andreas, Totally man. Also approach anxiety is sort of like a speech. And Abraham Lincoln had physical difference when nervousness hit before every speech (sweaty pits, pale face, and noticeably more wrinkles). So get the nerves out with people you don't care much for. Once you get going.. you can't be stopped!

Yes it's weird by normal standards but it's something you have to do anyway if you want to get over approach anxiety. It's just facing a fear head on enough times so that you become desensitized to it - which is a requirement for more consistent success in other areas of game.

As long as you behave like it's just an ordinary thing to do, you'll be fine. When you're out, you have to realise that no one else is really paying attention to you. Everyone else is in their own little worlds, so don't worry about it.

Also, no one you talk to is really going to think it's that weird unless you act like it's weird yourself, or do something bad to get noticed.

Just act like it's normal, use common sense, and you'll mostly be fine.

It's only unnatural because you let it.
Ever notice how some people can walk right up to you and not shut the fuck up?
Ever notice someone you engage absolutely shuts down?

To each of those people I explained, the other would say "how/why do you do that?"
It's all about gaining a feel for what your doing.


The language will always be foreign until you practice it.

say something else.