I recently started a thread about my girlfriend making comments about my penis size. It bothered the fuck out of me but I never react. But they are starting to get to me and I have no idea if she is testing me or complaining. She says I am the best she has ever had by far, her previous lovers begged for sex and stunk, yells "I need you for this" during sex, ect......I know her last boyfriend was a tiny guy body wise (and she has said bigger guys she things have bigger ones, I am much bigger than him) and that she has been with at least one big guy pecker wise. My game is tight with her by the way

I am 6" length and 5.5 inches girth, so I know I am not small compared to average!

The bitch said the following things:

"Big peckers scare me...don't get me wrong this is still nice (points to mine)" (good thing)

"I don't like big peckers, they scare me. Yours is the perfect size. (I say women are kinda poor at telling size) and she says "oh I can, just take the compliment" "I could tell you something that would make you not want to have it with me ever again" (could be good, could be bad)

"That is scary" when seeing a large toy (good thing)

(I see a shirt in the store something about big penises and make a comment about how it is mine) she says "except it should say small!" in response

(I put on a pair of underwear that shows my junk) "Oh let me take a pic! Wait it makes you look like you have a big package, which you don't" (we have talked about how I am a grower tho, and I wasn't hard so she knows that)

(I say how I love my ipad and gonna bang it instead of her and how it has a port) "yeah you'll be the perfect size for the port"

(I say how a girl called out my name and a kid with the same name was right next to me, say how we both are big too body wise, and have big heads in cocky way) she says "and one of you has a big penis and it isn't you!"

When I sent her a pic of my dick recently tho, she sent a smiley which was good


Guys, what the hell gives here! I am about to dump this bitch if she really thinks I have a small weiner, when in reality it is slightly above average in both areas.

For fucks sake I casually brought up average penis size that I saw on yahoo news (a long time ago) when she sat right next to me and told her the average then a few of my measurements and my friends, SO SHE KNOWS I AM NOT SMALL, and she really might prefer my size because she is a very small girl, but is she shit testing me?

Who gives a fuck, if she moans when you fuck her it's big enough. She's probably just screwing around.

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Imdabes!

she is normally a ball buster, but If I ever made a joke about her B cups (which I truly love more than big tits, by the way), she'd get hurt.

I normally brush these off and she wants sex all the damn time.

but fuck man

Well there are a couple explanations:

(1) Girls have different preferences, just as a guy does (small/large breasts? BMI? Height? Flaps down-under?). I also know (from lots of close female friends) that a lot of woman love larger girth and stitistically average lenght (5.5ish?) as it can hit the gspot better; and she doesn't have to angle your 'man' around her internal setup(?).

(2) Maybe she's into humiliation because it turns her on? If you ever get in the situation where appropriate, throw on some porn.. some of the humiliation variety; and learn what she likes/doesn't like. Some girls love to be in control in the bedroom.

Anyways, if none of that appealed to you, just ask her what's up.

- Lucas

Dude. Dump her. You're obviously too insecure for a relationship.

You are walking around with your gf and talking about how your dick is big when it isn't. Sorry, it's not. You keep pushing it and your gf is just responding to your cockiness. I'm skinny, but I don't go around bragging to my girl that I'm Vin Diesel and then get mad when she says I'm skinny. And if I did I would be make jokes like that I'd do them fully aware that they wouldnt just say "yeah, you're big like Vin Diesel" and I'd be making a joke about myself on purpose.

Abt her B cups. Is she walking around talking about how her breasts are huge? Doesn't sound like she's just putting you down.

And the fact that your dick is "statistically bigger than average" doesn't mean much. If you look at the stats, the average female is overweight. But if you see a girl who is thin with no fat, small breasts and no ass and an average face, you'd call her average right? You're not gonna say "well statistically this girl is almost hot!"

You think girls go around measuring dicks and know what the nation's average is? Or that they even care? No girl who isn't lying to you, will tell you or think that 6 inches is big. If you pulled this "I have a big dick" thing with the majority of women at 6, be prepared for some eye rolling and snickers with their gf's. Not a big deal but you shouldn't keep talking about it.


And so fucking what if she thinks your dick is small???!??! Heck, I think it's small and if you were my friend bragging about 6 inches I'd joke about it too. You keep telling her you have a big dick in a cocky way like it's true so of course she will put you down. Even if your dick was 20 inches and she thought it was small, why would you care? This is a serious confidence problem IMO. Don't tease a girl about sex and dick size if you can't handle the subject.

Bro I never said I was big to her. I just snuck in that article to show her that I was not SMALL like she sarcastically says. I am average or a half inch above and that is what I am trying to show her.

The line about women not being able to tell that well, I wasn't saying I was big, and she knew that.

The t shirt line I was guilty but I said it half jokingly and she responded half jokingly. Plenty of guys would joke about this and PLENTY of guys are average, something like 75% of guys are between 5-7, the remaining lower and higher than those numbers


But I think your comparison with the "skinny chick with no tits or ass = almost hot" compares well with an average dick is false.

I would think an average dick would equal an average tit size, like a B or a C, which PLENTY of guys find amazing. Just like PLENTY of chicks find average or thereabouts a perfect size for them.

I want her to see me as average for fucks sake, not big, and by telling her the stats in a subtle manner she knows this....


What I am trying to get the bottom of is if she is truly thinking my dick is smaller than average OR if she is just playfully joking with me and really does prefer my AVERAGE ISH size because she is a bit frightened of larger ones or they hurt.

Has it crossed your mind that most of the guys she has fucked have been bigger than you, so she just assumes you're below average?

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RSDTyler

as I said I know she had sex with one well endowed guy at like 16 which is roughly when she lost her virginity, then had a relationship with a guy who was no more than 5'4 for 3.5 years who she said she would text during sex, watch tv, ect and tall guys have bigger ones she thought, then she met me after 1.5 months.....

So I assume the max number of guys she had it with is like 4-5 including me, and I can assume 1 was larger and 1 was smaller, so even if another guy was bigger than me, she still would probably think i'm average especially after I told her the stats

She may also be comparing you to porn.

In either case, you are anatomically large enough to pleasure her, so stop worrying about it. She could easily go find a bigger cock than yours for a ride if that was something she greatly wanted. Obviously it ranks below a lot of other stuff.

Chill out. She likes you. That includes your dick.

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RSDTyler

So I cleared this situation up.

I basically tricked her into answering my question by voicing concerns about another matter. STDS. I called her out on the "I could tell you something that would make you never want to have sex with me again" line and told her she has to explain the shadiness to me if she has an STD. She said she does not, said don't you trust me? ect.

I then SMOOTHLY brought the conversation to past lovers. I shared a funny story about my sexual past with her and encouraged her to join. I angled my way into asking about her former guy's ahem.

One of her stories was about a 5 inch (she estimated) "chode" as she put it that was really wide and she found it gross and hated it (remember, I am 6ish and slightly above average thick). "That didn't work out" she said. It was like a "disgusting square".


She said size doesn't matter and it has all felt relatively the same once its in in the past, plus her past only has a bizarre thing or two, nothing special. so I said "it does, just not too small to not feel or too big to cause pain right" she agreed and said where I stood. She said "I could tell you you are a dime a dozen" aka I am average to her?

Then she said "it also depends on the person's body" (size of penis does, even tho we know this not to be true) (pair this with "I would think taller guys have bigger ones" and her stories of text messaging when having it with her ex boyfriend) and we have all signs pointing to her small body ex boyfriend being SMALL down there too.

Remember she dated a VERY small guy body wise.


So it seems like I am average to her. Of course she gave me a few shit tests along the way like saying "maybe you shouldn't be" when I said I was confident with my body, and I didn't react, along with "maybe you should work on your skills" (even tho I gave her her first orgasm AND she does nothing but compliment my skills---her actions of initiating also prove it)


So it would seem my fears of being her smallest are alleviated I guess...she just texted me saying she wants to get the D

Lol count yourself very lucky that you have found this girl. She must be borderline slow or mentally childish. I have no idea how to have so many conversations about dick size, other guys dick size and dick size in general with a girl and it won't make her put 2 and 2 together that I'm insecure. But hey, I've seen girls date guys who were blatantly gay so I can imagine a girl being so obtuse. Are there any other posters who discuss or would discuss dick size with their gf so much? I'm curious

You've brought up STD's and whether she has one, a story about sex with another girl and whether size matters in one conversation. I don't know how this girl or anyone can see this as normal and this conversation would create a negative dynamic in most relationships.

She is just being a bitch dude. There's no reason for a chick to CONTINUE saying that stuff over and over. As I said in your previous thread she's trying to put you down and get to you so you feel inferior. She's insecure and doesn't want you to consider being with someone else.

Just tell her you're bored of her saying such stupid things. She's your girlfriend, not someone you're in the process of picking up. It's safe to put her in her place on this matter. Don't get pissy just say "You sound like a broken record. Do you feel better now?"

But the thing is SHE BROUGHT it up all those times, I didn't! and the dynamic of the conversation was in good fun and I have been VERY confident (she has said borderline delusional) confident in the past.

I am not flat out asking her "does size matter?", "how big was your ex's dick?"

It was more like, tell me a funny story from the past (after i told her about a girl with huge boobs that were gross), didja ever see a millimeter penis? LOL

She is also 21, a person who discusses poop, peckers, and childish things quite often. She has a very crude sense of humor

I dunno....the way I read it sounds like you're bringing it up (like the pointing to the t-shirt thing). The dildo thing sounds like she saw something and made a comment on it. Like if she had seen sushi and said "I hate sushi". And you tease her about fucking something so she teased you back.

You are obviously insecure about your size. From the time a guy researches average dick size and is curious about the size of a girl's exs it means he doesnt think he's big. It's like if you have to post a picture up and ask people if you're good looking, it means your insecure about your looks. Seriously, I've never known or cared about knowing the size of my girls exs or where I stack up. And the one friend I knew who acted like that WAS insecure about his size. Last night a chick slept over and saw me log in here and asked what I was reading. I asked her for her take as I read the first post out to her. Halfway through she was like "OMG...He is so insecure." And that was just from the events that took place not your thoughts.

I mean, you're insecure about your size and you have a weird dynamic in your relationship. It sounds pretty childish from your other threads, pretty adversarial and rude on both sides. For eg, I've told you that making your gf wait because she's always late is just fostering a childish dynamic. It's not mature. Added to that you talk about sex with other girls like there is any smooth way to do this.Is this your first relationship and how old are you too? Seriously? 16? Because I can't picture 2 people over 18 or 19 interacting like this is a relationship. And I've learned that if you mention sex with other girls, whether it's funny, whether the ex was 400 lbs or whatever, girls get hurt by that shit if they give a fuck about you. You say she's childish, but what does this say about YOU? You are engaging in some conversations that sound pretty childish. She could be with her friends saying "My bf is soo childish, he has a small/avg dick and boasts like he has a big one. He accused me today of having an std. And he is interested in my ex's dick size and how they fucked me." Don't you see how childish that sounds?

You tease your gf and she teases you back. You act cocky and she brings you down. You've gone too far with the teasing and head games. You call her a bitch like it's nothing. This is your gf man. Why would you be with someone you would see as a bitch? She teases you and you feel negatively towards her, fine. But ask yourself, are your actions doing the same to her? Could you be teasing or joking with her abt things that are secretly hurting her? You can continue the cycle and build hidden negativity in your rs or one day you can just talk to her and say lets both cut the shit out. Obviously you can't handle her replies so maybe she feels the same way.

But comon, what guy wouldn't joke about the t-shirt thing, that is just in good fun! How is that insecure? It is like an average dude pointing to a billboard of arnold schwartzenegar and saying hey look its me!

The average dick size thing I posed to her randomly because I go on yahoo news

And the talking about dick size about her boyfriends, she is like you will judge me if I tell you? And I pretty much told her I could care less if you fucked a 2 incher or a brontosaurus. She also said she has tried to have the past lovers convo with me before several times but I didn't want to