So here's my situation im hoping you all can help me out with. I met this very pretty girl (8.5/10) while working went up to her and talked for a bit and got her number (Friday) everything went fine so I text her 2 days later usually waiting 10min to reply back to her text's sometimes her's would take awhile sometimes it would be quick, anyway I asked her to hangout on Tuesday after work and she agreed..Well i texted her tuesday and she said she still wanted to but then when the time came I could not get ahold of her..So i just went on with my day and woke up the next day to a text saying she was very sorry and that she had fallen asleep, the text was sent at around 1:30am..so i say no big deal its cool..So then I made another date to hangout which was 2 days later, she agreed..well i text her and tell her to let me know when she is ready for me to come and pick her up..well a few hours go by and it's getting late so I send a text saying "So..?" she replied saying "I swear im not standing you up but the weather is really bad and I don't feel safe going out with it like this out"...Which i have never replied to it's been about 24hours should I just keep waiting to see if she will text me or should I take the lead and text her and try one more time to hangout or get a new chick.

Thanks fellas.

Hi,

I'm not a pro (or PUA) yet, but I'll try to give you my best input (which you can totally take with a grain of salt; meaning listen to it or ignore it if you don't think it's helpful).

I think you should move on to the next girl (or better yet, the next "girls" -- just keep meeting them). I think once you care too much about her then she'll sense that and she'll get turned off. But, when I say "move on to the next girl", I mean do 2 things: (1) move on to the next girl (literally), and (2) hopefully that movement will stir some interest in you from the girl you're after.

I know it sounds strange, but the less you pay attention and the less you care (to a degree; at least this is my experience), the more the girl (both in general and the 1 who is the topic of this thread) will want you.

So, I think you should try a few things:
1) Don't respond to her texts till the next day (I know it's really hard to do cause we all get excited when a girl we're interested in texts us, but trust me, just wait 1 day). She'll wonder why it took you so long and then figure you were prolly out having fun (or with another girl). Basically, you've got things to do and people to see and IF she is lucky, she MIGHT get a chance to hang out with you.
Caveat -- If she texts you out of the blue on a Friday or Saturday -- wait till Sunday or Monday. Others might disagree with me on that 1 (it could be a booty call).

2) Find things to do. Even if you have nothing to do or anyone to do it with. Look at your community calendar. Get a hobby. Volunteer. Make friends. At least make 1 friend at each of the events you go to. Anything. But, basically, occupy your mind with something other than her, time will fly by, and days will sometimes pass before you realize, "shit! I forgot to text her back!" Strange as it sounds, it actually puts the ball (with women) way in your court.

3) As hard as this is to do, she sounds like she needs to be negged. I know it's really hard to do. But, trust me, use 1 from one of the lists from this forum and when you see her, give it a minute or 2 and then hit her with it (don't just walk straight up to her and be like, "you got big-ass man hands!" -- neg with tact). I've never had a girl get mad at me for a neg. Just don't sound mean. Do it with a smile.

4) Maybe get a pawn, a friend who is a girl, or a buddy's sister, etc... who is your age and just let this girl you're interested in see you with her (let the girl you're with know what you're doing so you don't end up hurting her feelings -- unless she's a pawn; then try to get her number too while you're at it).

5) I guess don't forget kino (to a degree and without going overboard -- touch her hand or shoulder here and there) and to dress nice and smell good (cologne or Axe body spray or something).

I really hope this all helps. I know what it's like to have the girl you like not be interested and treat you kind of poorly -- it really kind of sucks. But you deserve to be treated well (as a human being) and you'll either get this girl or you'll meet another 1 that you'll like a lot.

Best,
Epic_1

Awesome I really appreciate the advice, I will be trying all of these suggestions..I will report back if all goes well if not then ill move on.

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SHe is playing/testing you.

She flakes on you several times and you are ok with this???!! You know what will happen? She will keep on flaking on you! Because this can be done without any consequences. In her eyes, a real man would not put up with this shit.

I think there are actually 2 options:
1. Move on to the next one and remember this experience.
2. Ignore her for a few weeks and contact her again ('hi, i know you have been flaking on my several times. I don't deserve the way you treated me. I am better than that. I am going to the pub on tuesday [for example]. You could join me if you want. If you don't want to, that is ok. I will have fun with my friends anyway"

BTW: you text too much. You are showing too much interest and this will be perceived as pushy by the girls

Thanks for the help guys, I do think this girl is very hot but im gonna make the smart choice and move on..there are so many more out there so it's all good! Also will cut back on the texting I figured I wen't wrong there but we got into good conversations lol

UPDATE:

I haven't texted her in 2 days..I get a text today saying "You know i really wasn't trying to stand u up..Im so sorry if you thought I was"

But im gonna be a man and ignore this tho as hard as it is..Just thought I would let you all know. Did i make the right choice? Im new and still learning but I try to learn something new daily and practice.

Awesome! Sounds like the ball is back in your court dude!

Respond to the message but def. wait at least 1 day (remember -- she didn't give you the time of day when you responded too quick but came crawling back when you ignored her). She's trying to make amends and that's probably not easy to do - a bit of a loss of pride on her part; some positive human response on your part would be best (think of all the times you've had to apologize for anything; it would make you feel horrible if you didn't at least get some "it's ok" acknowledgement).

And then, do what feels natural. Hang out with her or stay distant. Whatever your inner-self tells you that you want to do. You're driving through life, and she becomes a temporary passenger in your journey only if you want her to too.

The type of passenger she may be?

Well, that's up to you bro