I have been busting my ass in the field trying to pick up women. I consistently get numbers but then no replies or if I do get replies it goes no where.

For instance for new years...I was very smooth with this girl escalated as far as I could (I had to show some restraint because we were at a party and had no privacy.) I had her sitting on my lap she would rest her head on my shoulder we would make out she would get into it heavy breathing, pulling me in, moving her groin towards me... Long story short the party gets broken up and everyone had to leave.

I had already gotten her number earlier in the night. So that night she texts me saying she got home and goodnight. I didn't even tell her to do that. We chatted a bit then she feel asleep. The next morning I asked her if she wanted to join me for a movie. She replied WAY later saying she was tired and she was running around with family. We bullshit a bit and she stops replying. Then she texts me today saying good morning. We have a short dialogue then she just stops texting me. I requested her on snap chat and told her to take a pic of herself I wanted to see what she looks like bummin it up because she said she was dressed down. She opened the snapchat and hasnt replied and it's been 2 hours. I am about to delete her number I am tired of the bullshit games.

What pisses me off is I know for a fact I would have fucked her had we stayed. She was actually telling her original ride not to come get her because she didn't want to leave so I imagine she was trying to outlast everyone. I have no clue what I did wrong here. Anyone have any insight on this it would be greatly appreciated! I know I probably shouldn't have asked to hang out so fast but she works two jobs and is really busy. I know by her actions though that she's not interested at least that's how it is coming off through this phone game bullshit.

I don't know how I could have made anything go smoother. She wasn't even wasted either.

You are being too hard on her. You have to understand a major difference between men and women.

Men have a logical "ladder' of attraction that they climb. The more intimacy happens, the closer the get to the point of wanting to fuck her. The ladder is linear, straight and short.

Women do not have a ladder like this. She probably started rationalizing later at home. Thinking : "oh my God, I acted like a slut, what will my friends think of me:" and 10 minutes later "what if he thinks I'm just a slut" and 10 minutes later: "OMG, what if he just wants to fuck, and I liked him". 10 minutes later: "well if he just wants to fuck, I don't like him anymore, I am going to hate him.

Another 10 minutes later you text, and she gives you cold responses. Well I will guarantee you one thing: You will get used to this in womens behavior. The worst thing you can do is show that it gets to you. So never get angry, or delete her as a friend from facebook or stuff like that. I did this in my early days. I would meet the women later in the bar, they would be very friendly, but friend zone me, because they thought I was being to sensitive.

So just stay calm, act as if she never bitched to you, freeze her out for a couple of days. And just text her as if nothing ever happened. Also, don't ask her for sexual favors like you did on the snapchat, in this stage it will only make matters worse.

Just give semi-intersted texts, kind of casual and fun, more about you then about her or "us". And you can turn this thing around.

Besides. You need the practice, cause most women will do this. I even had a girlfriend, who would be different every other week. In the week of her period, she would be a monster, and I had to just give her space and swallow her bad behavior. The week after it was payback time, she would cry and apologize and give me make up sex. The week after she would ovulate and be superhorny and happy. The week after was normal, and then the bad week started again. She was very aware of this, and even explained to me how to deal with it. It was great to know and ever since that lesson I started paying attention the menstruation cycle of my girlfriends, and it made my game better.

Another example. I meet this girl through a friend of mine. I take her home twice and we kind of bond "as friends" on an emotional level talking about our past relationships. No close whatsoever. Maybe a little bit of attraction. A few months later, I meet her, I get major IOI's she keeps coming on to me. I was in a relationship and do not respond to the IOI's. I sometimes even kind of ignore her, to make sure she stops giving me IOI's.

So what happens a few months later: I meet her again. And she is cold, does not want to talk, tries to avoid me in the bar. So a 180 degree turn. But like I explained to you. I ignored her right back, just gave her a casual hello. Now I will just wait for a next chance, I will meet her again and her mood might have improved, and at least I didn't do or say something about her behavior, which would have made me look like a guy that cant handle a girls delicate and more chaotic emotional nature. Also I never showed any romantic interest, which might cause her to react more strongly around me, just to get my attention, or just to see how strongly I will react to her.

Conclussion: Asking negative attention CAN be an IOI... and does not mean you are finished gaming her. It only means you should adapt your strategy and pace.

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"Always leave her better then you found her"

What Hofu said.

Don't give up, but don't let her play around.

I have the same thing happening to me. We chat, it's great. Here's a snip of our texting:

her: haha mm ok i'm sure I can figure out IT stuff i'll just play on the comp and act like I fit in
me: That'll work. You're hired! Maybe then you can fnally be a part of the cool group and come get drinks with me after work!
Her: hahaha perfff. So you're a glorified hacker pretty much ay
me: umm duh! One of my many talents


Can I recover this? It's been a few hours since I sent it out.

Thinking maybe, "omg you totally thought I was talking about something else you perv!"?

thoughts??

Be patient, do not delete her number. Keep her as a friend. If you are using some regular fluff dialogue in your texts, switch it up to some real game. Perhaps she wants you as a pua friend. Quit being demanding, a phone number is useful for when an event occurs

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The secret to most things is to never hold yourself to other people's standards.

I decided not to delete her number and I let it ride out. However, she ended up standing me up then tried to text me two days later like nothing happened. No apology or explanation so I just let her go. I found out from someone else that she has a steady fuck buddy so who knows maybe that's what was holding her back.