I'm definitely a thin guy at 5'9 and 135 lbs. I don't mind being thin but I don't want the first thing people notice about me to be that.

These boards seem to talk a lot about harnessing that primal male aggression when pursuing women. Women naturally are drawn to men who have that whole "alpha" swagger. But can a truly skinny guy be an alpha. Every time I fail with a girl or get friend zoned, I wonder if it was because I'm thin. Sometimes I wonder if being skinny is as much of a kiss of death as being a fat chick.

Are there any tips specifically tailored to skinny guys? Is it detrimental enough that I need to become obsessed with trying to gain mass? Any other skinny guys have stories to share? Thanks.

Eat and work out.

Okay... So you're saying that trying to pick up as a skinny guy just won't work? If devoting my life to packing on calories / protein and religiously going to the gym is my only option, I'm in trouble.

Any other insight ?

Be funny, be a bit pushy/aggressive. Stand your ground. You're starting at a disadvantage.

I'm small too and it's certainly a detriment, but it's not a complete disqualification. But you really should be eating and going to the gym. I lift weight, but I have a back injury so I can't lift that much, otherwise I'd be trying to bulk out as much as possible.

I used to be skinny in my early 20s and it wasnt a big deal...u might get a small minority of girls that dislike it but its hardly a factor. Some arsehole bully guys might try and push u around but thats rare.

I think its just an insecurity in your head more than anything else.

There's girls turned off if you're too big as well so u can never please everyone.

Exactly. Look at that mystery guy he's skinny as... It's not even a disadvantage, all in your head bro.
You need to work on your inner game. I used to be skinny as f#ck, went to the gym for 4 years and am now quite massive. However, I pulled more chicks when I was skinny because my inner game was better.

NEVER change anything about yourself that you're personally happy with. If you like how you look (I know guys who look awesome skinny and I know many who look awesome bulked), you're on the right track.

Russell Brand is skinny and I've never met anyone more charismatic or alpha in my entire life.

Dress to suit your body type and work out to get at least some definition.

When I say eat and work out, it's because you should maximize your appearance. You can still get girls being skinny, but it gets easier the better you look especially if you're starting out. Plan your meals, and hr workout every other day (get a proper schedule and program). Plus getting stronger gives you more strength for sex and lifting girls etc.

Not to come across as arrogant but I've gained a lot of size since starting lifting (160lbs to 220lbs) and I was definitely disappointed with how much it helped with girls. I thought not being a skinny guy would instantly get me loads of babes but it really didn't. Don't worry too much.

Maybe get on a proper workout programme (not that shit the local gym PT will give you) and pound the food if it bothers you a lot, but it's nothing compared to learning how to talk and act with girls. Certainly not as much of a factor as I thought it would be

I had no problems picking up as a skinny guy and making out with 9's however the 10's are impossible without fitting a certain mold. Go to FB, POF, etc the hot chicks rant on and on about dudes being buff and having tatts. I had my balls busted by a an 8 who said she wouldn't date me cuz I was skinny but that was when I was 155 and 6'3. Now I'm 180 and 6'3 so my whole "insecurity" about being skinny is finally gone.

Granted I am not jacked but only 1 year in. Need to go the Gym more, very addicting. Now my large shirts look small and big dudes don't seem so big they seem kinda normal unless super jacked. Not going for the super jacked or the thin toned look. Going for the buff look with abs. Guys with huge shoulders and frames look weird but guys with medium sized frames with big arms is where I want to be.

I don't know what I started at but got 14.5 in arms which is pretty sad cuz my arms are long and lanky. I am jealous of shorter guys since they fill out faster as they ain't so dang lanky. I still feel kinda skinny but keep working out. Most girls want the buff look like Brad Pitt/Ryan Reynolds not monsters like Arnold or the Rock. The buff look is pretty much universal. Girls accept skinny sometimes cuz they're nice.

I used to be a skinny guy when I was younger also, 5ft9 and 125lbs and although its not a big negative factor it can be with the hotter women 8s and upwards. I did something about it and got into weight training and worked my way up to about 180lbs in 4 years. Wasn't easy but I found it really did have a positive impact on my ability to pull but it never made a huge impact. TBH having muscles impresses other men more than women which can be a good thing. It does make a difference once you get physical with the women though, Iv had a few admiring comments from women in the bedroom the first time I took your shirt off. I'm not in as good shape as I used to be right now, very hard to maintain.