If this is happening, you've blown it somewhere along the line. Continuing to contact her will just make you seem needy. In today's age of modern technology, there is almost no way that she can miss your message for any extended period of time. She's acting like you are beneath her attention. Acting needy by trying to push through that won't help. You're best bet is complete silence, and then hope she recalculates and contacts you. If not, screw it. Many fish...

I admit I'm a huge overthinker, which I hate, I over-analyze situations and think things that never even existed or happened in the first place.
She did take a while to reply to me before, but I don't like thinking that just because someone didn't reply that its a lost case and I should just "give up". I prefer to think like Julian from RSD (Real Social Dynamics), "There's not such thing as rejection, only unfinished business. If you don't get her now who says you won't get her later? Therefore there's no real rejection".

To avoid looking needy I'm gonna do it as LongSimple said, freeze her for a bit, then re-open and try to find out more about her before asking her out again. Whenever I dive into pua forums, videos or guides, I always get this feeling that the community groups all women in the same basket, like they all think the same way. Some women are used to attention from guys, so obviously they get a few tricks up their sleeves to weed out the bad ones or to avoid a certain one. But then again, some girls aren't like that, and while I pretend like this girl could be thinking "he's not worth my time", we still interact through likes on facebook and while I'm over here overthinking "She must be bored with me and not want to see me", she could've just been busy or even just didn't see my message (it happened to me before, I never got notified about someone's inbox msg's).

I usually just give up and say "plenty of other fish in the sea". But why restart over and over looking for something new instead of trying at least 100% for one you really wanted, then if you can't get her, at least you tried everything and don't have to feel bad for not giving it your all.

If all I was looking for was "move on", I'm pretty sure I could've told myself that. Which I normally do, and have for the past I don't know how many girls. I came here for "re-opening/re-igniting the attraction" help.

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I personally start wide with things like where are you from etc, then I zoom in to the real meat, who are you? that type of thing. Its not about showing too much interest its about sometimes responding in an unexpected way. I legitimately almost never even speak when I am in person, I just stare her down and say Hmm in different tones. Girls love to speak about things they like, today I met a girl who likes archery... Dude I said 10 words in a 40 minute conversation, se legit just went on about bows and shit like that. A little trick I use is the question " tell me five things you cant live without" Usually the responses are something like (Family, Friends, Love, Food<or something like that>, then what she actually likes) ask her questions to figure out what her passion is, what she knows a lot about and could speak forever about, then all you need to do is keep her talking, not by asking long booring questions but by doing something as simple as saying tell me more or I would love to hear more.

My conversation today:

Me: *Sits Down* Waits for a bit* Hey, Ladies ( In a flirtatious manner)
Seana: Hey, James, I telling Hannah we needed people to get the archery club started
Me: I was actually going to join that but I have no time
Seana: Ohh yeah you have crew
Me: Is Archery like really hard?, it seems pretty badass, with the bow and all.
Seana: starts talking about archery, I just keep really good eye contact, laugh sometimes, and say the 3 different types of hmm.


Its really easy to hold a conversation when you know what someone likes, just figure that out and give them your attention.

You know, like a fool, I didn't even notice the spaces in the links where you criticized my chats, so I looked at them late, but I'm just that much more grateful to you.

As for what you said just now, I kinda do that, but the problem is sometimes I have problems listening, like I'll end up thinking about something else like what I'm gonna say next, the way she looks, or whatever. But when I do listen, they always feel like I'm not interested even when I sincerely am.

Also, the more I review my conversations with her that I attached, I feel like it's an exaggeration to have ever thought it was a lost case, and even though I kinda messed up, I honestly don't find it too bad at all. Only thing is, I can't resist freezing her. Last message I sent her was Thursday in the early AM, and we kinda liked and interacted through posts since, but no 1 on 1 messaging.

Is it okay to re-open now? Post on her wall to make sure she sees it "What's up gangster. How's the thug life?" and go from there?

Also, you seem like someone who knows his shit, any guides or threads you could recommend that helped you? You seem so sure of yourself, and all I feel is nervousness and envy to get her... I'm probably the worst one-itis patient on Earth. I think about her so much I don't skip my cheesy love and R&B songs when they come up on itunes anymore, and I kinda dreamt about her so much that its now hard to discern what happened and didn't.

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If you don't go after what you want. You will never have IT.
If you don't ask. The answer will always be NO.
If you don't step forward. You will always be in the same PLACE.

dude that's exactly why I am trying to help you, you really like her, I know the feeling... I wish I had seen this earlier T.T I replied to your message. What I sent you works, if she wants to be serious then she will say yes, you need to make it extremely obvious that you like her... Ill hut you with some study tools when you reply

I just replied but I'll go a bit more in-depth as soon as I arrive at the gym bro.

And thanks a lot man, I really appreciate what you're doing for me. Many thanks and really looking forward to talking with you more, tty in a bit.

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If you don't go after what you want. You will never have IT.
If you don't ask. The answer will always be NO.
If you don't step forward. You will always be in the same PLACE.