hey fellas, i need to help to get out of that mind set of sex being something of a dream, YA I KNOW! but it's an issue thats been holding me back. I'm not a virigin but i've only had sex 1 time and that was half a year ago. Now idk what to do to get my mind set back. I feel as if sex is something you just here about. Because of this it feels as if its very diffcult for my final aim to be about sex is hard cause i don't know how to get in that situation in the first place you know. I just need help to get out of this mind set. If any one says go out and get laid that vague answer isn't gonna help me.

get out and get laid really is the best answer but you can start by watching movies and stuff that have people having sex (not necessarily porn).....also its best to start slow, every master of anything started from the bottom....start off by kissing girls more then touching girls more then so on and so on....each time you do something you will want it more which will help you get out that mindset...also realize girls want sex just the same IF NOT MORE than guys, they just keep it on the low because they want to seem classy (which i appreciate) watch videos and stuff about how to use body language and eye contact to turn the vibe into a sexual vibe, the more you watch and learn how to do it the more it will play into your natural game


before you know it you'll be the next don juan de marco lol

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

I used to think of being intimate with ANY woman as an unobtainable fantasy I could only live out in my dreams.

But I wanted it so desperately that I never gave up. I looked high and low for the answers. I knew that there just had to be some thing or some way in this life, in this world, that could launch me forward.

I found pickup, and it promised me a lot of fancy things. The bullshit of the PUA community appealed to my desire for immediate gratification, but fortunately I got into all this before it was saturated with all the immediate gratification marketing. Fortunately I knew that I had to make slow, lasting progress.

And I did.

Now I'm in pretty much the same situation in another area of my life. To me, my goal of making my business a success is so far away that it's just a dream - a fantasy. But I know I can make it one step at a time.

You can make your fantasies a reality one step at a time.

And you can ground your sense of knowing that you can achieve what you set out to achieve by referring back to other things you've achieved in your life over a long period of time. What else have you been passionate about in your life that you set out to achieve? What else have you been DESPERATE for in your life that you set out to achieve? How long did it take you to achieve those things?

If you can't answer those questions, you've got bigger problems than women.

to have sex, get ready to attract a person.
attraction leads to sex.