I am hitting a breaking point tonight. A girl I been talking to just started to ignore me. I admit I been trying to keeo her around and trying to hard. I have a problem, I never had any one care about me or felt like they did. I think that is why I have a problem with relationships is because I search too hard for that person to care. When I find it I push it away because I try to hard. Has anybody else had this problem or what have you done to help get over it

I had the same issue, if you try too hard and try to keep her around. She will notice it, and you'll come off as desperate. Girls like men who seem confident and always having fun. Atleast, that's what I think. If someone disagrees I'd like to know why.

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Imdabes!

Anthony's right...it's a scarcity mindset based on fear.

Try to get better at picking up women. The better you get the more women you have the less you fear
about her leaving. Because she can be replaced.

Your oneitis stems from your fear of her being the only one for you.

Believe me, she isn't.

Women find a confident attitude attractive, but part of this confidence comes from a mentality of abundance; you're shit hot and you have women queuing up for you, so one girl is no big deal (this is the mindset you want to achieve)

Build yourself up and build your confidence. Go out more and focus on having fun. Girls will gravitate towards you. Run some game, kiss some girls, get some number closes. You'll soon realise that there's many girls out there who will find you attractive and you'll gain the mindset above - funnily enough making it easier to land the girl you genuinely do want.

Hope that made sense and helped somewhat.

Good luck friend!

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You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

i agree with what the others said, having more options will help with oneitis, but from what you said, it seems there might also be some inner game you could work on. perhaps there's a problem with neediness, or pushing things away that you really want could be an emotional issue that stems from childhood. you should try to reframe yourself so that instead of thinking that nobody ever cared about you and feeling sorry for yourself, you can just think that there's actually tons of girls out there that would be totally down to "care about you" and you're gonna go out there and find them!

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This word is the exact opposite of what you want. You're placing too much value on a specific person. You're in NEED of someone to fill this "void" you have in your life. Nobody wants to feel like they are the one filling any type of void.