so i got interested at this girl from work, we have been working together for half a year and have become really good friends, in the meantime i broke up with my GF and after a couple of weeks we started flirting.
the other night we were alone and i finally took the courage to kiss her, couple a days after that we had sex.
my problem is that the night before we had sex i was getting her aroused but she didnt want to because qoute 'im not sure that i want to have sex with you because although i think you are a nice person im not sure you're the person for me to be with'

so my reaction to something like that would usually be to show her that she is not necessarily the person i want to be with, and in that way to express that i am a high value guy, but i did not do that, i just got her aroused enough by toucching her erogene zones kissing her etc.

but i dont know how to do that.

right now she is with her friend in norway so we have been texting a little but i think i fucked saying that i wanted to met her,before works starts again (we work in norway, but both work in denmark) but after she told she couldnt change her plans i kind of pulled it back, in a so wierd way it would be embarrasing to just show in here.

what to do? what to write? and how do i act when we get back to work? how do i make this girl think im the number 1 guy?

Hey mate best thing I can tell you right now is don't put too much focus on her. It sounds like you've already put too much value on her, so what I would suggest is go out talk to other girls get #'s date other girls. It will change your whole appearence and attitude as well as the vibe you put off. she will pick up on that right away and start putting effort into you. Another thing you can do I'm personally not a fan of this, but if you have her on fb post some pics that she will see not nessecarily of you with other girls, but of you having a good time doing crazy fun shit. She'll see that and start thinking of you differently.

Hope that helps good luck!!

Hi Rubbish
Judging from what you are saying and the way you are thinking in your post, you are demonstrating being too needy. Women see that and its poison. If you want to continue with this girl then...
You need to give her space. Now you said you worked with her, so I am assuming that she may be able to see you at work. At work she needs to see you interacting successfully with other women, that creates value. For example in a given social space there may 1 or 2 women that you want to target however you start out talking to other women so that they can see you having a good time with them. When that happens they pre qualify as you a man who is comfortable with himself and with a woman. That way when you make the rounds of say 4 to 6 women and get to your target, then they been hit in a blast radius multiple times making easy for you interact with them.

I do this at work all the time and all kinds of women goo all over me, even married ones. It took me about 2 weeks to establish an overall rapport within the social space, but once that was setup and I started flirting and women could see and hear that it was like... "when in is my turn coming... come over to my desk" ...and they always smile and give that great amount of eye contact. So that is one way to build high value.

As far as facebook goes in my opinion you want to show pictures with you and other women having fun and a pic showing a smooch but nothing too sexual or heavy. Again, when women see that other women desire you, and you are not a random creeper, they pre qualify you and that means giving you high value.

I personally got rid of my facebook page because I see it as a liability, however many will disagree and likely have had great results using it as tool. I favor to create a degree of intrigue, in that if she if is investing in me to find me on facebook and cant find me, then its like carrot sticking in front her face that she cant have and that creates desire. Therefore... forcing her to meet me in person as opposed to coming up with preconceived notions about me if she sees that I may like video games, or like some kind trash band, that would cause her to say, "nah!" However it all depends what kind of information you put on the facebook page and you also need to consider who can tag photos to you because that also can be liability if say your coo-coo first cousin has some dork picture of you and posts it where all of earth can see it. ...its just not good. But again, its a matter of opinion and how you control your facebook to get the best out of it. You never know, I may go back to it one of these days, but I am ok being without for now.

Good Luck and I hope you get her.